My family and friends are driving me crazy about this engagement party. My fiance and I are hosting our own engagement party - 6 months prior to our wedding. This was meant to be a small affair for about 50 cocktail party style. I have tons of family and friends coming from out of town to attend (some invited themselves) this event. The problem is - I feel a lot of pressure to host a party party with dj, dinner, etc. That's not even my style - I want a more laid back social gathering where we can mingle, eat, laugh, and talk. Should I care about what my guests want or should I do what I want considering we are paying for it.