I have this really close group of friends and we've been friends for a really long time. However, there is one girl in this group who I have grown apart from. I get the sense that she feels she is too good to hang out with us and really doesn't make any effort to see or hang out with us. Ok, that's fine...I can't make her if she doesn't want to. Whatever.
In general, she just really bothers me....There always seems to be some sort of drama around her and I just don't like dealing with it. Recently I was in town (I live in a different state and only see this group of friends like once a year) and me and the group of friends were all hanging out, doing a gift exchange. This girl said she wouldn't be able to come...but later that night, she called her twin sister (who is in this group of friends) and said she left her keys at home so she had to pick her up and take her home because she couldn't get in. We thought that meant she would stop in. She gets to the house and calls her sister and says she's waiting outside and to come out. She doesn't even BOTHER coming in for 30 seconds to say hi to people she doesn't ever see. We told her to come in so we could all say hi to her but she wouldn't....like WTF. It just showed me that she only cares about herself and is just plain RUDE! I didn't expect her to stop in and have a full blown conversation for 2 hours but geez...she didn't need to be rude. She could put forth the minimal effort necessary and have said hi.
Anyway, I told my FI about it and he agreed that she was totally rude and said we shouldn't invite her given how she's been acting (she hasn't really been that good of a friend in a while but I'm not going to go into it) and knowing the drama surrounding her. If she wasn't my friend's (who I am close to) twin sister, she would NOT be invited. Neither me or my FI really want her at the wedding. However, given her relationship with my friend and the fact that she lives with her...I think it would be really awkward to not invite her. I'm afraid it might just cause even more drama to exclude her...but at the same time, I don't think I should have to spend money on someone who doesn't even care enough to make the effort to say hi to me or even seems to care about having a friendship with me. Ugh...I don't know what I should do. What do you think? Should I just bite the bullet and invite her anyway so I don't have to explain myself about why she wasn't invited?
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