RSVP Question

Gwenwhyfare · May 2010

I'm probably over thinking this, but I wanted some opinions.

I forwarded a draft of our invitation to my Mom and she made a comment about the address for the response card. She said that the RSVP's should go to the brides family. A little more info, my Dad is not in the picture, and Mom is not contributing financially to the wedding (I have absolutely no problem with that). FI's parents have offered to pay for the reception and we're taking care of everything else.

I'm not sure where we should have the RSVP's mailed. We're hopefully moving at the end of June, so I don't know if mailing them to us is the best option.

Kelki · May 2010

I may be in the minority here, but I would do whatever makes the most sense for you logistically over what people expect because of wedding etiquette. I'm having my RSVP's mailed to me directly because I am the one who is organizing and planning this wedding. If I had the RSVP's mailed to my mom's house I would be anxious to not have them with me. My case is a little different I guess because I live 2k miles from where the wedding is, but I think I'd feel the same way if I still lived a mile from her.

When will you get the invites completed? Could you hold off on printing them until you know for sure if you are moving or not? If so you could wait until you have the address and have them mailed to your new place, which might be cutting it close since you will be sending out the invites at the end of July (I'm guessing, since your wedding is at the end of Sept.).

Would you be comfortable having them sent to someone else?

Gwenwhyfare · May 2010

That's kind of how I feel, and my Mom lives right around the corner from me. I'm managing the guest lists for both sides and will be giving the final count to our reception venue. I originally had our current address as the mail-to and FI's Step Mom suggested having them sent to their house if we were moving. Oy..

We were planning on sending out our invites towards the end of July, but that's a good idea about asking if they can hold off. I'm not positive on how long it takes for them to order, print and deliver everything to us. Guess I should have asked? LOL. I'm just afraid that whatever I decide someone's feathers will get ruffled.

culbycheese · May 2010

We used our own address for the return. I'm too anal to let someone else be responsible for keeping track and letting me know. It goes to the brides family when the bride still lives at home, but other than that my thinking is that they should go to the bride!

Depending on when you will be sending out RSVP's, you may be able to wait on having those printed for a while until you know for sure. You could also temporarily rent out a PO Box for a few months, too.

queenfm85 · May 2010

Ooo! PO is a good idea from Culby. I agree with most PP. I couldn't let someone else handle the RSVPs. I'm the planner and perfectionist and I would go batsh*t crazy! lol

elimey625 · May 2010

I live in Ohio but the wedding is in Michigan (duh, why I'm on this board!). I'm planning to have the RSVP's sent to my house though because I want to be the one to keep track. My mom has been involved in the wedding, but not super involved and I imagine I'll be doing the seating charts, with a consultation with her and FMIL and FSMIL (is that the proper acronym for future stepmom in law?).

emarston1 · May 2010

I rarely pay attention to whom I am sending the RSVP back to---do whatever makes logistical sense for your situation.

boogerbearoriginal · May 2010

I doubt I've ever looked at the address on the RSVP envelope. It makes the most sense to have the cards go to whomever is keeping track, which in this case sound like it is you.

Yes, 20 years ago it went to the bride's family home because that's where the bride lived. I can't imagine what a PITA it would've been if I had to call my Mom to see who RSVP'd.

Do you know the new address where you'll be living at the time? If its still up in the air, then I think the PO box suggestion is a good one too.

Just do what makes the most sense logistically - there's no 'right' place for the cards to go.

Gwenwhyfare · May 2010

Our living situation is still up in the air, I wish it wasn't. Colleen's suggestion sounds like a good solution for our problem. The Post Office in Wixom has a six month plan starting at $14 and it's right around the corner from my work. $14 to eliminate one less thing to stress about, I'm there!

Thanks ladies

culbycheese · May 2010

$14 is a bargain in wedding-planning world! I'd be tempted to open 10 just so it felt normal! lol

That's great that will work for you- I don't know how to explain it, but I got a little squishy inside when I opened the mailbox and saw the little cards there- glad you'll get to experience it!

*Rebecca and Chris* · May 2010

I had the RSVP's sent directly to me, since I was the one keeping track of them. Plus, nothing was more fun than checking the mail for the cards!

jennifer0124 · June 2010

Another idea is to order the RSVP envelopes with no address and then get a stamp or labels once you know if you're moving. We printed our own so we didn't have to worry about it but that way you can wait.

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