We are recently engaged, and decided on a destination wedding in Negril for immediate family members, if they decide to go, and 1 or 2 close friends, also if they decide to go. Do not want to send out invitations because we do not want to put financial strain on anyone, and she has stated to me she has already had a big wedding, and does not want that again. So far, my family of 4 have booked, and 2 close friends. It is her second marriage, first one for me. No big ceremony, just exchange of vows on the cliffs, then some music and drinks, then dinner. How do we go about doing an engagement party and shower since we did not send out wedding invitations, but we would like to celebrate OUR engagement and OUR FIRST living expeience together..Someone has already approached me in saying they want to throw her a shower. She just has to ask my fiance if it is ok. As for the engagement party, we do not want anythiing, just for our friends and family to celebrate. A shower witha very small registry would be nice in my opinion because my fiance and I do not have anything of our own as a couple yet. She has her stuff, and I have my stuff. Just need some advice. She said she can go either way, and so could I, but I have never had experience with this, and I would never want to take anything away any moments from her..So should we do both, just one, or none..Thanks..