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Inviting children

jopzwedjopzwed
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I have a huge family and am having trouble drawing the line on guests due to our venue size.  If I invite some children (1st cousins with small children) but not all children (in town friends, friends from out of town that are not close family) is that ok?  I assume many of them will not bring their children anyway, but I just don't have room for all the kids if they did
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    banana468banana468 member
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    My suggestion is to make a cut off.

    We invited the children of our cousins but not the children of our friends.  This helped us cut  back a lot.
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    aerinpegadrakaerinpegadrak member
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    There should be a clear cutoff either by age or by relationship, that way you have that to fall back on if people complain.  We chose to invite only the two infants in the family and no other children.
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    [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    I agree. Either make a cut off by age or relationship or just do no children period.
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    loop0406loop0406 member
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    Most would invite no children or all children.
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    banana468banana468 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_inviting-children?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:e664bf14-f965-496f-a352-cd8e998f59b9Post:ca291a94-b91e-4264-93b2-3c9b400980db">Re: Inviting children</a>:
    [QUOTE]Most would invite no children or all children.
    Posted by loop0406[/QUOTE]

    That's one of the dumber rules I've heard.

    I don't make a cutoff for all or no friends, why extend it to kids?
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    jopzwedjopzwed
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    Thanks - your advice makes me feel better about what I wast thinking of doing.  I think children of family, but not friends should work!  Especially since all the family with children will be coming from out of town.
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    Lisa50Lisa50 member
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    We've come to just about the same conclusion, however, here's the twist.  Children of family (no friends' children) but only age 12 and older.  Since ours is an evening wedding, we think that might work.

    Honestly, we might change our minds ... again!  Ha!

    Good luck with this!
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    armst76armst76
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    We are inviting immediate family children and wedding parties kids, thats it.  No friends kids, so far its been ok
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    [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    I agree, I really think the distinction for me is whether or not the parents would be unreasonably burdened in leaving their children at home.  My cousins who live 6 hours away will surely be bringing their children (all under 10, some new babies), especially since they each have 2-3.  They can't drop them at grandma's house because my uncles and aunts are obviously invited as well!  It would be rude for them to leave them with my aunts and uncles-in-law, who are NOT invited, since that just rubs that in their face.

    I would not be inviting children of anyone who plans on driving home after the reception, because I figure they can handle leaving their kids with a sitter for the evening.  For those who do need to bring their kids, I plan on having a basement room at my reception location for the removal of crying kids, and for the entertainment of them as well (with a paid sitter).
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