My fiance's grandfather has agreed to officiate the wedding, and we were very happy that he would. A few days ago, however, we were going over ceremony wording and the pronouncement as the new couple.
When we get married, we will legally change our name to McQuade instead of taking his last name which is passed down from this grandfather. His grandfather said that if he is going to officiate the wedding, he can't in good conscience present us as Mr. and Mrs. McQuade. He says this is because he's proud of his name and the name has a "legacy", of which neither I nor my fiance knows of.
We aren't changing our last name because we are ashamed of the name, we aren't disrespecting his family, it's merely for fun and sound. Lex McQuade sounds a lot better than Lex Hislastname. And the name that we want to take is my fiance's paternal grandmother's maiden name, so it really confused and astounded me when we got this dropped on us.
Am I wrong for thinkng that this isn't right? I don't want to have this issue come between us, but I get the feeling that this is a pride issue that his grandfather needs to work out between him and God. I'm not sure how to handle this or even if I'm thinking clearly. Help?