So, FI and I are very recently engaged. This will be his second, my first. My parents are deceased as is his Dad, so we told his Mother. Her reaction? "Well, I sure hope you don't expect me to pay for anything - I did that once and look how that turned out". That was it - her complete reaction. Not a smile, not a kiss my butt, nothing! I could care less but I'm hearbroken for FI. Maybe if we tell her there will be free booze at the reception, she'll be happier. Just had to vent - thanks!