We have been engaged for just over a year and I have been on the Knot for almost as long and just found out that if I check the little arrow near the Special Topics there are other Boards. Wow, a little computer ilterate, but really glad I found this board. Hope that someone may have some ideas into this issue I may have. Anyway a little bit about us. We are getting married in Maui in Oct. It has been a roller coaster of sorts and I am starting to think some of it has to do with hormones. I am 43, FI 51. This will be a second marriage for both of us. When I met him I had no desire to ever marry again and told him so. He was ready a few months into our relationship but let me work things out and grasp my love on my time. I am completely in love with this man and I honestly can say I can't wait to be his wife, but lately I come up with some crazy stuff. I have never been a jealous person but I find that even him talking to the 60 yr old receptionist at his work has me asking him questions. This past weekend we decided it was time to pull our credit reports. We wanted to be open and start working on our retirement plans together and we knew there was some garbage from our divorces that we needed to clean up. Well we pulled my first one and then the internet went down. We were sitting in the den together. I didn't think too much about it and we went to dinner. When we got home I called the service company and they said there was no service going into the house, so they sent a tech out the next morning. When the tech came we were not home but he called to say all was well and that "the plug had just pulled out". I'm think how the heck??? Immediately I looked at FI and accused him of pulling the plug. He was quite mad and after an argument left to the store. While he was gone he called the tech back and asked him to explain better how this "plug" could have come undone. The poor tech actually did call me back and told me that it happens all the time and no one actually pulled it but it just came loose. I felt horrible. Now it seems so far fetched but at the time I honestly felt sure that FI had done something. I have no reason to believe this. He has never cheated, takes great care in knowing that he loves me, and even when I do go off he trys to fix it. Last night I just mentioned that maybe some of this was hormonal he asked me not to get mad but that I had the worst PMS of any woman that he had ever had a relationship with. Ouch. Thing is this really seems to be just in the last 4 to 6 mos. and I am not sure how to handle it. I have a physical in a few weeks and I will bring it up. Any ideas on what may be going on? I would be thrilled if I was hitting menopause but we are going to have a rough 8 months if I keep starting fights every month.