Our wedding party is small. I have a Matron of Honor and a bridesmaid. At the time of my wedding the bridesmaid will be almost 13. I want to include her in the pre-wedding activities because she means the world to me but I don't know how to do so. I figure at the shower she can bake something or whatever instead of helping to pay. For the bachelorette I was thinking she could join us for the PG stuff and then the adults can go out for the rest. Does this sound reasonable? Is anyone else in this situation?