So, my FI's ex-wife is a little "off", to put it mildly. His kids are great, but he has 50/50 custody and she refuses to co-parent. Everything becomes a great big drama, down to the boys' hats and mittens. Things have been really tense lately and the strain is really beginning to show in my relationship with FI. It's not the kids, it's dealing with his ex. I won't go into the details, but just say that this is not what I thought I was getting into. Again, the kids are great. I really, really like them. It's just the drama that comes along with them. I know when you date/marry someone with kids, you date the kids too. I just didn't realize I'd also be dating/marrying the ex.
And, his mother is even more "off". She thinks he and his ex-wife should get back together. And told him that. And then he told me that. The point that he was trying to make was that his mother was slipping mentally and couldn't understand that they were not getting back together. Anyway, while I get the point he was trying to make, it certainly didn't make me feel any better - especially since a few weeks earlier the little one made a comment about "when mom moves back in". Huh? I tried not to make a big deal of it, but asked with a smile on my face (trying to make him not feel like I was mad or hurt) "then where would the dog and I go?" He said, "you can get an apartment." Ouch. So, still reeling a bit from that - even though I know it's really normal and most kids in a divorced family want mom and dad back together - we get a Christmas card from FI's mother addressed to Mr and Mrs. I wanted to throw up.
Just needed to vent. He's trying to be understanding, but he really has his hands full with his mother and his ex. They're both crazy and part of me feels like if things don't settle down soon, I'll be right there with them.
My new year's resolution is to do a better job ignoring this stuff, but dang it's hard.
