No Ring Bearer or Flower Girl?

JayPlusKay · April 2011

This stinks. I have no conceivable choices for children in my wedding. It frustrates me to no end, but I am moving on and trying to come up with other ideas. How does this sound?
I have two Jr Bridesmaids. I would like to have them standing at the door, handing out programs and then, when the time comes, walk, arm in arm (they are good friends), each carrying a single flower that matches my bouquet in place of a flower girl. Or, if my venue would stand for it, have them walk my puppy down the aisle together (we would love to incorporate our dog, since he's our baby). Thoughts?

8daysaweek · April 2011

I'm not really sure why you are disappointed about not having an FG or RB. They aren't required and those positions should be treated as an honor for children who are important to you and FI not as a slot to be filled.

Personally I'm not a fan of the concept of junior bridesmaids simply because I don't see how they differ from the other bridesmaids. But most of your idea for these two young girls sounds okay except please do not make them hand out programs. That's busy work not an honor. Just put a basket out with the programs in it near the door; people will get the idea.

I also wouldn't force the idea of going arm-in-arm on them. If they want to, great, but they might be uncomfortable with it, especially in front of a crowd of people, some of whom they may not know.

The dog is really up to you and your venue but fair warning: Dogs are not predictable and may do things you wouldn't like them to.

Good luck!

mbcdefg · April 2011

I also don't get why you're so upset at not having a FG/RB, but different strokes. I didn't have a FG/RB and don't regret it in the slightest (we didn't invite any kids to the wedding, plus it was nice not having to worry about taking care of small kids during the bridal party stuff).

I think your plan for the young bridesmaids is O.K., but ditto PP about not forcing them to walk arm-in-arm.

I love dogs, but I think there's too much potential for things to go wrong when you include an animal in a wedding. Especially a young puppy. Plus there's all the logistics of taking care of him before and after the ceremony. I'd just include him in things like photos, table numbers, stationery, maybe a charm on your bouquet, etc. But not in person.

theluckiest555 · April 2011

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[QUOTE]This stinks. I have no conceivable choices for children in my wedding. It frustrates me to no end, but I am moving on and trying to come up with other ideas. How does this sound? I<strong> have two Jr Bridesmaids. I would like to have them standing at the door, handing out programs and then, when the time comes, walk, arm in arm (they are good friends), each carrying a single flower that matches my bouquet in place of a flower girl. </strong>O<strong>r , if my venue would stand for it, have them walk my puppy down the aisle together (we would love to incorporate our dog, since he's our baby). Thoughts?</strong>
Posted by JayPlusKay[/QUOTE]

Haha me too. My FI wants our dog to be the ringbearer. I think it would be really cute, and our venue will allow it, however, we just don't know what we would do with her after the ceremony. But I think that idea is cute, and so is your idea about the jr. bridesmaids. I think that any way you can involve people that are close to you is great. I don't have any little boys coming to the wedding, but I think it would be sweet to have a RB, so if it doesn't work out with my dog, I might ask one of my girl cousins to do it. (They are all like preteenish age) Good luck! I think you have some good ideas!<img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-smile.gif" border="0" alt="Smile" title="Smile" />

trix1223 · April 2011

We didn't have child attendants in our wedding almost 33 years ago. My sister and BIL didn't have child attendants. My brother and SIL didn't have child attendants. My BIL and his wife didn't have child attendants. Our son and DIL and DD and SIL didn't have child attendants. And we're all still married.

I promise that you'll still have a very lovely wedding without having little kiddos.

I'd just make the two girls BMs. Skip them handing out programs, and give them a slightly smaller bouquet than the "sr. BMs" are holding. And please, don't make them walk arm in arm. Just let them walk beside each other. I can't imagine why they'd have to be arm in arm.

As for the puppy: no. Just no. I love dogs. Among 2 of my children there are 4 dogs. They are beloved pets. The operative word here is pet. And if you weren't exaggerating in your wording, it's a puppy. An adorable and probably wildly unpredictable puppy. Please don't do this to the puppy or your WP or your guests.

Incorporate your pet in other ways: use photos of him for table numbers. Take photos of you, FI and puppy and turn it into a shutterfly book and let your guests sign it yearbook style. There are plenty of options that don't put the dog in an uncomfortable position.

Good luck.

trix1223 · April 2011

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[QUOTE]This stinks. I have no conceivable choices for children in my wedding. It frustrates me to no end, but I am moving on and trying to come up with other ideas. How does this sound? I have two Jr Bridesmaids. I would like to have them standing at the door, handing out programs and then, when the time comes, walk, arm in arm (they are good friends), each carrying a single flower that matches my bouquet in place of a flower girl. Or , if my venue would stand for it, have them walk my puppy down the aisle together (we would love to incorporate our dog, since he's our baby). Thoughts?
Posted by JayPlusKay[/QUOTE]

JIC

bonnyandtim · April 2011

I didn't have a RB or FG.

My wedding went fine; great.

You don't NEED them.

thesequel · April 2011

My photographer profusely thanked us during the first meeting when we told him that there were no children in the WP....

doeie04 · May 2011

We aren't having a RB and FG in our wedding. Too many kids to pick from, and it is easier this way. No Junior BMs either. It isn't really a big deal.

fluffymunky · May 2011

My sister had her two dogs in the wedding. I HATED IT!! Mostly because I had to walk her dog....actually chase her down down the aisle. Then the entire time i had her up on the alter she was trying to jump on my sister. My dad had to take her from me and hold her by the collar the rest of the ceremony.

I understand your love for your puppy, but they can be unpredictable. Too hyper, too shy or too talkative!

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