Hello! I'm new to the Catholic board. I'm getting in married in May (less than 100 days to go!) and we've run into an issue regarding some of our guests.
FI and I are getting married in our college town, which is just a little over an hour from his home town. We're getting married at our tiny campus church and have been going through marriage prep with our priest there. He knows us both, is a really nice guy, and we're looking forward to him officiating our ceremony.
FMIL and FFIL are very active in their parish in FI's hometown. They originally wanted to invite all the priests (5) from their church, but then scaled it back to 1, we'll call Father James, who is a good friend of theirs both in and outside of church. She wanted him up there officiating with our priest. I was very opposed to this, as I only wanted the priest who knew us both as a couple officiating our ceremony, but since Father James has been very helpful in securing a much needed internship for FI, I opted to get over myself and let it slide (not to mention that Father James is technically our priest's boss, and he has his mind set on being up there, so even though I think it's rude that a stranger has decided to be part of my wedding without talking w/ me there's not much I can do about the matter).
Now, however, FMIL has insisted on inviting all 5 of their parish priests, as she would feel rude excluding any of them. I have absolutely no problem with them attending as guests, but she's insisting that it is proper etiquette that all 6 priests (ours and her 5) be officiating at the alter. I think this is ridiculous. First of all, our church is entirely too tiny to fit 6 priests up there. Secondly, I really don't want this mass dragging on forever, Thirdly, I don't want to have a circus of priests up at the alter while we're trying to say our vows. It would make me feel very comfortable to have six priests up there going over our vows, etc with us.
Does anyone know what the proper etiquette on this is? Is it ok just to say you're invited as a guest, not as a celebrant? We're ready to call up FMIL and explain that she had rights to a guest list, not a celebrant list, but if anyone else has experience with inviting priests to a wedding I'd love to hear it!