I love my MIL, but she is driving me a bit nuts. She insisted on taking my husband and I out to a fancy dinner a few weeks after we got married, but she left the bill on the table when it arrived and made no move to pick it up, so my husband and I ended up paying. This is an ongoing trend with MIL and the reason we often suggest she come to our house for a home-cooked meal instead of going out, because she rarely pays or chips in to the bill. She always says she is "tight on money", but then will go out and buy a bunch of stuff for our house that we don't need or want, like random artwork or decorative carpets. It doesn't make sense.
Another thing--my parents have invited MIL to their home constantly over the years and always include her in our family gatherings and even some of our vacations. MIL has never reciprocated by inviting my parents/family to her home or treated us to a meal.
And here's the kicker: my mom just told me that she doesn't want to include MIL in my family's next vacation. I don't want to, either. My parents are tired of paying for her, treating her when we go out, and having her over to their house with no reciprocation or thanks. I'm tired of it, too--my husband and I get the same treatment from her.
How should I broach this topic with my husband? He is aware of MIL's lack of contributing and it annoys him too, but I think he'll be upset when I tell him my parents don't want her to come on our next vacation. I'm sure MIL expects she'll be invited (especially because it's in a beach town close to where we live), but my parents aren't planning on it. I don't want to hurt MIL's feelings, but I want to find a way for me and my husband (or just my husband) to broach this topic with her. Any advice?