I booked our officiant last summer, well over a year in advance. I found a person I liked very much personality-wise, that seemed to make personalized, secular ceremonies. I've been so excited about meeting up with her over the summer so it wouldn't be some stranger marrying us. I was also happy it was a woman and that her company does civil union ceremonies...not everyone does and gay rights is an important topic to me.
This weekend I got a phone call from the officiant that her daughter's best friend is now engaged, and getting married the same day as me in November. That she could still do my wedding if I said so, but she was hoping she could do that girl's instead and give me a fill-in from her company. The fill-in is a man and I didn't CHOOSE him, you know? I have to make do with what I was given and I didn't sign up for him.
I told her of course to do the daughter's friend's wedding, because what else would I say? I don't want to burn bridges and bitch at her about it, because what if I can't find somebody in the six months I have left that I like? And really why would I want this lady there now that I know she wanted to be somewhere else.
So I'm kind of pissy. Doesn't this seem rude? Has anybody had a friend or family member marry them in the city of Chicago? Is it a pain or tricky to have someone become an officiant so that I don't have to pay $350 for a stranger I didn't choose? I'd consider having my brother marry us, he lives out of state if that helps give tips on having friends/family perform the ceremony.
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