Rehearsal with OOT bridal party members

Re: Rehearsal with OOT bridal party members

• AddieCake member

  

  March 2013 edited March 2013

  The problem I see with this is their work schedules. If I had to be there for a Thursday rehearsal and Saturday wedding, that would mean at a minimum I would be missing Thursday and Friday of work. Depending on how far I was coming from and what I needed to do to prepare for my trip and what time I had to leave Thursday to be there, I might also have to miss Wednesday. 

  
  

  Personally, I would be uncomfortabel staying in a stranger's home. Sometimes I"m uncomfortable staying in the homes of people I know as well. I just prefer the privacy of a hotel in some cases. 

  
  

  Do your bridal party members really need to "get to know each other"? 

  
  

  It's not mandatory that they be there. Yes, it's nice to have a run-through, but unless your ceremony is complicated or you have some logistical problems (as we did), they won't be missing much not to rehearse. I would say certainly invite them to be there but make it clear it's not imperative and don't make them feel bad about it if they can't be. 

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• Xstatic3333 member

  

  March 2013

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_pre-wedding-parties_rehearsal-with-oot-bridal-party-members?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:32Discussion:d1320895-26c7-4ac7-bde8-50fc2b434422Post:8e5c8d60-2ea4-40cb-9606-d348a66b7996">Re: Rehearsal with OOT bridal party members</a>:
  [QUOTE]The problem I see with this is their work schedules. If I had to be there for a Thursday rehearsal and Saturday wedding, that would mean at a minimum I would be missing Thursday and Friday of work. Depending on how far I was coming from and what I needed to do to prepare for my trip and what time I had to leave Thursday to be there, I might also have to miss Wednesday.  Personally, I would be uncomfortabel staying in a stranger's home. Sometimes I"m uncomfortable staying in the homes of people I know as well. I just prefer the privacy of a hotel in some cases.  Do your bridal party members really need to "get to know each other"?  It's not mandatory that they be there. Yes, it's nice to have a run-through, but unless your ceremony is complicated or you have some logistical problems (as we did), they won't be missing much not to rehearse.<strong> I would say certainly invite them to be there but make it clear it's not imperative and don't make them feel bad about it if they can't be. </strong>
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  <div>We have a Thursday rehearsal and this is what we are doing.  I do want the rehearsal for my own benefit (plus it is included in all of our fees already), and anyone in the BP who wants to either come into town a day early or join us for dinner after work is invited, but I am going to make it very clear that it is not expected of them.  Vacation days are precious!</div>

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• freebread03 member

  

  March 2013

  In Response to Re:Rehearsal with OOT bridal party members:[QUOTE]The problem I see with this is their work schedules. If I had to be there for a Thursday rehearsal and Saturday wedding, that would mean at a minimum I would be missing Thursday and Friday of work. Depending on how far I was coming from and what I needed to do to prepare for my trip and what time I had to leave Thursday to be there, I might also have to miss Wednesday.nbsp;Personally, I would be uncomfortabel staying in a stranger's home. Sometimes I"m uncomfortable staying in the homes of people I know as well. I just prefer the privacy of a hotel in some cases.nbsp;Do your bridal party members really need to "get to know each other"?nbsp;It's not mandatory that they be there. Yes, it's nice to have a runthrough, but unless your ceremony is complicated or you have some logistical problems as we did, they won't be missing much not to rehearse. I would say certainly invite them to be there but make it clear it's not imperative and don't make them feel bad about it if they can't be.nbsp; Posted by AddieL73[/QUOTE]
  
  Literally all of this. Having them come in on Thursday for a Saturday wedding is ridiculous and would probably require them to even take off Wednesday. I wouldn't be comfortable staying at a stranger's either and would be stuck paying for another night at the hotel. And then what are people supposed to do on Friday especially if they're from out of town? Or do you expect them to drive/fly in Wed night, go home, and come back Saturday?

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• SP29 member

  

  March 2013

  Uh no, I would absolutely not expect them to go home in between- THAT would be ridiculous. I'm asking an honest question since they are in the party and the rehearsal dinner is to thank the guests of the party. 

  
  

  They would be staying at my parents house (as will I, so they'll be in the same place as me), if they like. 

  
  

  On the Friday, the ladies in my party would be spending the day with me (groomsman can hang out with my FI) (or if they so wanted, each other and they can doing some local "sight seeing"). 

  
  

  Thanks Addie and others- you make some good points. The wedding party would have to be in town on the Friday at least (afternoon/evening)- could possibly do the rehearsal dinner that evening as a get to know each other then.

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