There are 2 girls I asked to be BM's back in sept/oct for our wedding on May 7. They both accepted and seemed excited.
Fast forward to 2 weeks ago. I called David's to see who all had got their dress. The 4 other girls had, and these 2 (mother and 16yr old daughter) had not yet gotten theirs. There was alot going on lately with them (admitting the 16yr old to the hospital for suicide watch and substance abuse, purchasing a home, etc) so I figured that they just couldnt get by there, and mentioned that ANY black dress will be fine, I just wanted them there, same dress or not.
I asked her 2 weeks ago, if she thought that they would still be able to be in our wedding with everything going on, and she said "I'm not sure right now, we have alot on our plate right now and I don't know if we can swing it. We will have dinner one night and go over all of that"
Well as of today, I havent been able to get an answer out of her, or get her to come to dinner. I dont want her to feel like she HAS to do it, and told her I know she has SO much happening right now, that it's more important to take care of the daughter and make sure she's ok. I made it clear that it won't hurt our feelings at all if they need to back out, that of course we want them there, but its totally ok if they cant.
So with 19 days to go, and no answer, how do I go about finding out if they are still going to be BM in our wedding? I cant wait until the day of, where they either show up, or they dont.