This is my first post here, (just got engaged on Labor Day) and I'm a little confused... I never in my life tried to invite myself or anyone else to another person's wedding, but I've been engaged less than a month, and it's happened twice.First, my close childhood friend who will be one of my attendants called a few days ago to tell me her mother (who I haven't exchanged more than very casual greetings with since I was a child) wants to come to the wedding. I am guessing that's partly because she wants an excuse to fly to NYC, and my friend wants her to come because her mom will pay for their hotel room. My friend put it as "no pressure, buuuut ..." and was trying to talk me into it. My answer was "I don't know; we haven't made our list; weddings are expensive..." etc. But I am kind of p.o.'d that she has done this, and it's now out there.Second, a guy who is on the outer edge of my circle of friends - and kind of an unsavory character - asked me last night at a dinner party we were both at if he could come to the wedding. Seriously, he asked me about 5 times. I said basically the same stuff I said to my friend. Annoying.If I've gotten two of these in less than a month, I'm a little afraid at what we're in for. My fiance & I have no family money, will be paying for the whole thing ourselves, are probably going to have no more than 75 people, and are probably going to have to cut out of the list people we would love to have there, so we're definitely not inviting random people we don't care to have there. So strange.Has anyone else dealt with stuff like this, and if so, how? I need to have a good retort ready.