My FSIL is throwing a coed "surprise" shower for us. We found out about it after everything was planned and underway. This is both our second marriages and we just merged households, which meant selling, donating, gifting, and storing a great deal of "stuff". We don't need anything except a set of drinking glasses and were not planning to register anywhere. Neither of us wanted a shower for this reason, and because neither of us are comfortable being the center of attention.
The guest list is pretty big. FSIL is pressuring us to register, so we're going this weekend to oblige.
I really hate that she didn't ask us before planning all of this. I feel stupid having guests bring us gifts that we clearly do not need or even have space for. If anything, a BBQ or non-shower party would have been preferable. I'm going to smile and be gracious, (and don't get me wrong, I appreciate the kind gesture) but I am really annoyed at this whole thing.
FI asked me yesterday if it would have been rude to decline a shower, had she asked. Considering we declined an engagement party offered by someone else, we already knew how to politely but firmly decline, rude or not. I just didn't want a big 'ole deal.
Oh well..... <sigh /> Thanks for reading.