Sorry this may be long, but I have a lot of venting to do. So, I woke up Monday morning to an email from my FSIL who is also my MOH. In her email that she sent out to everyone (bridesmaids, groomsmen, and other people that are included in the wedding) saying that after talking to me and my FI, everyone was in agreement to do separate Bachelor Party and Bachelorette Party. The only problem is, me and FI never agreed to that. Actually, we are completely against it. We share a lot of the same friends and want to share that time with all of our friends rather than them having to choose which party to go to. So, I was a little upset about that and had to send back an email to MOH explaining that we never discussed this and we would rather have them joint.
So, after that is solved, I have my bridesmaids calling me. They are furious with the MOH (FSIL). So I calm them down and figure out what the deal is. I guess MOH texted all of the bridesmaids saying that the BMs owe her $100 for the wedding shower. When the BMs asked the MOH where and when the shower will be, the MOH said that the girls will get their invitations in the mail with the rest of the guests. This is what made them mad. If you are expecting the BM to pay for the shower, then they are considered hosts. Which means that they should know the details before the rest of the guests do. My BMs are very laid back and very optimistic, positive people. They told the MOH that they want to help plan the Shower, but they weren't expecting this. I am definitely trying to stay out of the middle with this one.
So, by the time I got to work, MOH asked me for the password that I have on the guest list for the wedding because she had forgotten it. So I give her the password but decided to check out the list to make sure that she had updated some of the addresses on IL's side of the family. As I am looking through the list, I am seeing new names. Not just some new names, but lots of new names. So, my first reaction is that somebody hacked into our file and added random names. But, I wanted to make sure with FI first. So I call him up and ask him if he knows any of these people that are now on our list. He knows each and every one of them. They are his Mothers friends. I was like WHAT!
So, his family went into the guest list, after we sent out all the STDs and 3 months before the wedding and started adding people to their list. I lost it. I told FI that I was deleting them off of the list and that he had to tell his mother that they were not invited to the wedding because we did not have the room. Me and FI are paying for this wedding with NO HELP from either parents. His moms response was that I had more people invited on my side than he does on his side. FI comes from a small family. HIs whole family (including cousins, aunts, and uncles) consists of 25 people. MY family consists of 70 people. That's a huge difference. So, yes! I do have 103 people invited on my side and my FI has 98 invited on his side. But I have three families that have already told me that they are unable to attend but I am still sending them an invitation. So that will bring my guest count down to 87! Which is 11 less than he has. Ugh. My IL's are driving me crazy. They also wanted us to disinvite some of the guests that we already sent STDs too. Not a chance in HELL.
So, anyone else have dramatic weekends with their ILs?
200 invited to the special day
148 attending the special day
32 not attending the special day
20 still awaiting response
RSVP Deadline: December 10, 2010
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