Let me clarify that questions just a little. Anyone married in the 1980's or early 1990's may remember that even the most formal of weddings was announced with just a very austere and formally printed invitation, unless you were invited to the engagement party and even that invite was austere. Placecards were used only in very formal plated dinners where more than one entree was served. Save the Dates were unheard of, and I didn't know programs existed until now...when our officiant suggested that we print them. Correct me if I'm wrong...I just don't remember all the stationary at any of the weddings I attended back in the day.
When did wedings become a minor play where guests must know the "cast" instead of meeting them at the cocktail portion of the reception?
This is our dream wedding and one that should have occurred a long time ago, but it's happening next year and we're delighted and we are having all the bells and whistles that we want. This is our most formal wedding and of course our last. We just didn't know that we would be doing so much printing or caligraphy (me and the FMIL).
And what exactly goes on a program anyway? And is it wrong to use the Save the Dates as an engagement announcement as well as a reminder of the up-coming event?