I'm not sure if I created a thread on this before but it's still an issue i'm fighting with and thought i'd get some fresh opinions. If you read this before sorry in advance.
I'll try to give cliff notes. Mother's side of the family is huge. Total living is 12 Aunts and Uncles. They all have kids. Total count for my mom's side of the family is roughly 50 people. Total count for my dad side is roughly 10-15. Here's the thing, pretty much out of the 50 people on my mom's side of the family I talk to none of them. Only time we talk is a random Hello of Facebook, or at a family event and even at that we rarely talk. Reason being, to put it bluntly there ghetto. Several months ago one of my cousins was getting married. At the wedding one of my other cousins was creating a scene with my cousins friend because she felt her dress was inappropriate for the wedding. It was getting to the point where my cousin was getting in the other girls face. Most of my family just sat around watching and laughing until one of my aunts mitigated the issue. I'm honestly not trying to deal with a situation like that at our wedding. My intention from the start was not to tell them I was engaged and let them find out after the wedding, but at my cousins wedding my mom went around and
I can only come up with 3 options:
1) Do not invite my mom's side of the family at all. This seems like a good approach but I fear that backlash lol. But to make things easier I really don't have to worry about akwardness because my parents won't be there anyway.
2) Only invite my Aunts and Uncles. I'm also leaning towards this, but again, there are a few cousins I would like to be there and I don't want any of my aunts or uncles feeling any type of way because I didn't invite there kids.
3) Just suck it up and invite them all. This could be an option, but we're trying to keep the guest list as close to 150 as possible since FI's parents are paying for the reception/catering.
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