My MOH, who is also my sister, is throwing me a shower at our church. It is meant for family and close friends of family. One of my bridesmaid's moms along with several of my bridesmaids are also throwing us a couples shower that will be a more relaxed, come and go, in the evening event. The couples shower will be more for all of our friends. My delimma... is who do I invite to what? Which should my bridesmaids' moms be invited to or should they be invited to both? Should I invite the groomsmens' moms and spouses to the family shower... they are close friends and family to my fiance? Or should they be invited to the couples shower? I guess my main issue is the parents and spouses of our bridal party... which one do they get invited to? I have read several others say you are only suppose to invite the mothers and the bridesmaids to more than one shower but I don't want to upset anyone by not inviting them to one or the other? I thought about just inviting those iffy ones to both and then letting each one know they don't have to come to both or bring a gift to both. I don't want to offend anyone or hurt anyone's feelings... any advice?