Even though my wedding is a fair ways off (roughly 20 months at this point) women from the congregation have approached me about them wanting to host an engagement party for us.
While I know it is not in good form to invite people that are not invited to the wedding, our church is notorious for throwing wedding related Potlucks and hosted parties in which the whole congregation is invited. We haven't even set an official date because we haven't booked our venue. My guest list is not anywhere near finalized, but I need to keep it under 100 guests. So I wouldn't even be able to promise the people wanting to host this party an invitation to the wedding,
While I don't want to be rude and decline, I feel like a) it is too soon for any pre-wedding parties, and b) it would be disrespectful to accept a party from people who may not be invited to our wedding.
Any suggestions on what to do?