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IDK what to do!! Help please (LONG, sorry)

AE here. I don't post often but my normal screen name has my real name in it, so obviously I cannot use that here.

Huge problem here. I have been with FI for 2 years. We are getting married on Saturday after an 8 month engagement. 2 months ago I went clubbing with FI's younger sister, "Shanna", and a few other girls. FI was out of town for work. Shanna has been a "lipstick lesbian" since her teens. She has also been a model since she was a child. Very, very beautiful girl. Anyway, at the end of the night Shanna and I lost track of the other girls; they ended up all hooking up with ex-boyfriends, friends with benefits, or new guys they met that night. Shanna and I were too drunk to drive the 45 minutes home so we got a hotel room (taxi would cost too much).

The hotel only had rooms with king beds available, so we figured it was no problem. When we got into the room, we both stripped down to our bra and panties since our clothes smelled so smoky from the club, and got into bed. Minutes later, as I was dozing off, I felt Shanna's hand removing the clasp on my bra. Before I realized what was happening, she had removed it and was fondling my breasts. I turned around to ask what she was doing, but she started kissing me and making out with me before I could ask. I was so drunk I just went with it and we ended up having sex. Two or three times that night, I can't remember. What I can remember was that it was amazing and I had never felt that loved and worshipped before. FI goes on long business trips, often international travel, so Shanna and I have been able to spend most nights together, having sex and falling in love. I am absolutely and positively in love with this woman. I have never felt such feelings for another person. That I feel this for a woman is shocking. I have never been bisexual or curious. I had never even kissed a woman before!

FI is coming home from a 2 week business trip tomorrow. We are to be married this Saturday, followed by a 2 week honeymoon in a tropical destination. FI is everything my parents and I dreamed for myself. He makes extremely good money, he bought our 4,000 square foot house himself, I was able to quit my job soon after we became engaged to focus on wedding planning and homemaking, followed by hopefully pregnancy and parenting after the wedding. I have always wanted to be June Cleaver and FI is making this dream a reality for me. I don't know what I would do if these dreams had to vanish. I can't give up FI and this lifestyle but I find it impossible to give up Shanna. She is everything to me and she fills in all the holes (literally and figuratively) FI leaves empty when he goes on his long business trips. I do love him so much, but it is very hard to be alone in our large house when he is gone for so long.

Now here's the second kicker. Shanna has been seriously dating my stepsister, "Emily", for 2 years now. Emily told me last weekend at my bachelorette party that she is going to propose to Shanna the weekend after our wedding. Emily has no idea Shanna and I have been having an affair for 2 months because she has been living 4 hours away for the last 3 months (job transfer). They see each other every 2-3 weeks for a weekend. Obviously Shanna and I don't see each other during these visits. Emily and I became stepsisters when we were young teenagers, so we grew up pretty close to each other. This would devastate her. She has said Shanna is the love of her life and she can't picture being with anyone else. I fear what this could do to our relationship.

What do I do? If I come clean, I'll lose FI and Emily. My parents and FI & Shanna's parents would never look at me and Shanna the same way again. Maybe I would lose Shanna, too, I don't know.
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Re: IDK what to do!! Help please (LONG, sorry)

  • KatWAGKatWAG Chicago
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    In Response to IDK what to do!! Help please (LONG, sorry):
    AE here. I don't post often but my normal screen name has my real name in it, so obviously I cannot use that here. Huge problem here. I have been with FI for 2 years. We are getting married on Saturday after an 8 month engagement. 2 months ago I went clubbing with FI's younger sister, "Shanna", and a few other girls. FI was out of town for work. Shanna has been a "lipstick lesbian" since her teens. She has also been a model since she was a child. Very, very beautiful girl. Anyway, at the end of the night Shanna and I lost track of the other girls; they ended up all hooking up with ex-boyfriends, friends with benefits, or new guys they met that night. Shanna and I were too drunk to drive the 45 minutes home so we got a hotel room (taxi would cost too much). The hotel only had rooms with king beds available, so we figured it was no problem. When we got into the room, we both stripped down to our bra and panties since our clothes smelled so smoky from the club, and got into bed. Minutes later, as I was dozing off, I felt Shanna's hand removing the clasp on my bra. Before I realized what was happening, she had removed it and was fondling my breasts. I turned around to ask what she was doing, but she started kissing me and making out with me before I could ask. I was so drunk I just went with it and we ended up having sex. Two or three times that night, I can't remember. What I can remember was that it was amazing and I had never felt that loved and worshipped before. FI goes on long business trips, often international travel, so Shanna and I have been able to spend most nights together, having sex and falling in love. I am absolutely and positively in love with this woman. I have never felt such feelings for another person. That I feel this for a woman is shocking. I have never been bisexual or curious. I had never even kissed a woman before! FI is coming home from a 2 week business trip tomorrow. We are to be married this Saturday, followed by a 2 week honeymoon in a tropical destination. FI is everything my parents and I dreamed for myself. He makes extremely good money, he bought our 4,000 square foot house himself, I was able to quit my job soon after we became engaged to focus on wedding planning and homemaking, followed by hopefully pregnancy and parenting after the wedding. I have always wanted to be June Cleaver and FI is making this dream a reality for me. I don't know what I would do if these dreams had to vanish. I can't give up FI and this lifestyle but I find it impossible to give up Shanna. She is everything to me and she fills in all the holes (literally and figuratively) FI leaves empty when he goes on his long business trips. I do love him so much, but it is very hard to be alone in our large house when he is gone for so long. Now here's the second kicker. Shanna has been seriously dating my stepsister, "Emily", for 2 years now. Emily told me last weekend at my bachelorette party that she is going to propose to Shanna the weekend after our wedding. Emily has no idea Shanna and I have been having an affair for 2 months because she has been living 4 hours away for the last 3 months (job transfer). They see each other every 2-3 weeks for a weekend. Obviously Shanna and I don't see each other during these visits. Emily and I became stepsisters when we were young teenagers, so we grew up pretty close to each other. This would devastate her. She has said Shanna is the love of her life and she can't picture being with anyone else. I fear what this could do to our relationship. What do I do? If I come clean, I'll lose FI and Emily. My parents and FI & Shanna's parents would never look at me and Shanna the same way again. Maybe I would lose Shanna, too, I don't know.
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    JIC. I also suspect MUD
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  • OBX2011OBX2011
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    WTF is up with all of these AE's lately and everyone sleeping with everyone else? 

    Why are you coming to a board of strangers to ask the question that YOU already know the answer too?  Do you think we are going to tell you to continue the affair with Shanna and go ahead and marry the FI so you don't lose all that money he makes?

    You suck.

     

  • LizzieyounceLizzieyounce
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    Not that I know this from first hand experience, naturally, I've just heard stories, BUT, that reads like one of those Penthouse Forum letters.


    Maybe you should tell him, then smooth it over by inviting him to watch you two high five each others v-jayjays.

    Did I do good, Linger?

  • Wow.  Another story of a girl cheating on her fiance and not knowing what to do.

    You know what to do.  Everyone in your situation knows what to do.  You need to tell fiance.  Tell him now.  Tell him before Saturday.  Otherwise you will regrew not telling him for the rest of your life.  Your little "Leave it to Beaver" life will be a lie. 
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  • peekaboo2011peekaboo2011 Washington, DC
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    If this crap doesn't end I'm going to have to resort to posts of exasperation in German...the English language is starting to fail me here.
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  • OBX2011OBX2011
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    In Response to Re: IDK what to do!! Help please (LONG, sorry):
    Not that I know this from first hand experience, naturally, I've just heard stories, BUT, that reads like one of those Penthouse Forum letters. Maybe you should tell him, then smooth it over by inviting him to watch you two high five each others v-jayjays. Did I do good, Linger?
    Posted by Lizzieyounce
    high-five vagina time????

     

  • OBX2011OBX2011
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    Wow.  Another story of a girl cheating on her fiance and not knowing what to do. You know what to do.  Everyone in your situation knows what to do.  You need to tell fiance.  Tell him now.  Tell him before Saturday.  Otherwise you will regrew not telling him for the rest of your life.  Your little "Leave it to Beaver" life will be a lie. 
    Posted by ChristineNB
    Shanna's Beaver???  baahhaaahaaaa  ;)

     

  • OBX2011OBX2011
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    In Response to Re: IDK what to do!! Help please (LONG, sorry) : aka scissoring?
    Posted by LingerLonger1
    Last week a gril on SB made the comment "bitches be trippin huh...high-five vagina time!!!!"

    My BF got married this past Sat and I would randomly walk up to her and say this.....and then we would high-five, but not each other's vajay's of course ;)

     

  • If you are real: You know you have to tell both your FI and stepsister as in tonight. Cancel the wedding tonight. If you don't end it, he will find out sooner or later and will be ten times more hurt that you were living when you said your vows. Plus, he will know you only married him for money and that you are a cheating gold-digger.

    Why does chitchat get the cheaters/made up cheaters? If you are making this up, I'm getting tired of the cheater storyline, please think of something new.

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  • Seriously, another one of these? At least this one gave more details though. Fun to read, a la Penthouse Forum styles as PP said, haha!
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  • In Response to Re: IDK what to do!! Help please (LONG, sorry):
    In Response to Re: IDK what to do!! Help please (LONG, sorry) : Shanna's Beaver???  baahhaaahaaaa  ;)
    Posted by OBX2011
    LOL
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  • In Response to Re: IDK what to do!! Help please (LONG, sorry):
    If you are real: You know you have to tell both your FI and stepsister as in tonight. Cancel the wedding tonight. If you don't end it, he will find out sooner or later and will be ten times more hurt that you were living when you said your vows. Plus, he will know you only married him for money and that you are a cheating gold-digger. Why does chitchat get the cheaters/made up cheaters? If you are making this up, I'm getting tired of the cheater storyline, please think of something new.
    Posted by redheadfsu
    I am NOT a gold digger at all! I have always had this dream of being a June Cleaver-type. Don't we all, deep down inside, want to be taken care of financially? To not have to worry about money and how things will be paid? I just lucked out and found my Ward Cleaver. FI has always been aware of my desire to be a housewife and stay at home mom, and he completely supports that. His mom stayed home with him and his siblings and he thinks that is the only option. He has always said I am the perfect June Cleaver he always dreamed about. :)  I just can't give up this dream we have shared.
  • In Response to Re: IDK what to do!! Help please (LONG, sorry):
    In Response to Re: IDK what to do!! Help please (LONG, sorry) : I am NOT a gold digger at all! I have always had this dream of being a June Cleaver-type. Don't we all, deep down inside, want to be taken care of financially? To not have to worry about money and how things will be paid? I just lucked out and found my Ward Cleaver. FI has always been aware of my desire to be a housewife and stay at home mom, and he completely supports that. His mom stayed home with him and his siblings and he thinks that is the only option. He has always said I am the perfect June Cleaver he always dreamed about. :)  I just can't give up this dream we have shared.
    Posted by AElover
    I don't think June Cleaver was boning her husband's sister.
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  • OBX2011OBX2011
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    In Response to Re: IDK what to do!! Help please (LONG, sorry) : I don't think June Cleaver was boning her husband's sister.
    Posted by AceTT
    but the Milkman.....for sure!!!  ;)

     

  • In Response to Re: IDK what to do!! Help please (LONG, sorry):
    In Response to Re: IDK what to do!! Help please (LONG, sorry) : I don't think June Cleaver was boning her husband's sister.
    Posted by AceTT

    Maybe Eddie Haskell's sister? Or mother?

  • If you want to be financially taken care of then you and Shanna should go into porn together. Lesbians make good money there.

    If you are real - tell your FI. Now.
  • In Response to Re: IDK what to do!! Help please (LONG, sorry):
    In Response to Re: IDK what to do!! Help please (LONG, sorry) : Maybe Eddie Haskell's sister? Or mother?
    Posted by Lizzieyounce
    Haha, who knows! What happens behind closed doors stays behind closed doors, even on TV ;)
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  • LizzieyounceLizzieyounce
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    In Response to Re: IDK what to do!! Help please (LONG, sorry) : If you hadn't already you just jumped the shark.
    Posted by LingerLonger1
  • I knew you'd get it, Linger!  I still remember that episode and how lame it was.

    Pinky Tuscadero, OTOH, I thought was cool...till they introduced her sister Leather.

    Went down hill from there.
  • In Response to Re: IDK what to do!! Help please (LONG, sorry):
    I think I'll save this post for my husband's whacking pleasure.  Thanks for saving me the potential computer viruses, OP.
    Posted by LingerLonger1
    Why does your husband need whacking pleasure? Doesn't he have you?
  • cew515cew515
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    This was my AE. Thanks a lot for not believing me, you bitches!
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  • In Response to Re: IDK what to do!! Help please (LONG, sorry):
    In Response to Re: IDK what to do!! Help please (LONG, sorry) : YOU!  It was you all along. Seriously?  Was it you?
    Posted by LucyHC
    No.
  • cew515cew515
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    In Response to Re: IDK what to do!! Help please (LONG, sorry):
    In Response to Re: IDK what to do!! Help please (LONG, sorry) : YOU!  It was you all along. Seriously?  Was it you?
    Posted by LucyHC
    Yes. And I'm completely fucking hurt that you assholes didn't have one shred of decent advice for me. After all that I've done for you!
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    In Response to Re: IDK what to do!! Help please (LONG, sorry) : Yes. And I'm completely fucking hurt that you assholes didn't have one shred of decent advice for me. After all that I've done for you!
    Posted by cew515
    I said in my OP that I am getting married this Saturday. Your profile shows you have been married for almost 2 years. I also said in my OP that I don't post often and that my original screen name has my real name in it.

    You have over 17000 posts. Obviously you post here often.
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    Sorry. I love meat curtains. Can't get enough of them.
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  • cew515cew515
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    In Response to Re: IDK what to do!! Help please (LONG, sorry):
    In Response to Re: IDK what to do!! Help please (LONG, sorry) : I said in my OP that I am getting married this Saturday. Your profile shows you have been married for almost 2 years. I also said in my OP that I don't post often and that my original screen name has my real name in it. You have over 17000 posts. Obviously you post here often.
    Posted by AElover
    It feels weird arguing with myself like this, but you're wrong. I'm you. You are my AE.
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  • In Response to Re: IDK what to do!! Help please (LONG, sorry):
    In Response to Re: IDK what to do!! Help please (LONG, sorry) : I don't really like to give it up to him.  I need to remain chaste.  I'd prefer he just whack it.
    Posted by LingerLonger1
    My FI would never be OK with that. Both of us have always felt that part of being a good FI/wife is to "give it up" (as you say) whenever my FI wants it. He travels all of the time so we don't actually see each other much so when we do it's kind of a big sex fest.
  • In Response to Re: IDK what to do!! Help please (LONG, sorry):
    In Response to Re: IDK what to do!! Help please (LONG, sorry) : It feels weird arguing with myself like this, but you're wrong. I'm you. You are my AE.
    Posted by cew515
    Awkward.
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    In Response to Re: IDK what to do!! Help please (LONG, sorry):
    In Response to Re: IDK what to do!! Help please (LONG, sorry) : Cew!  Give it up okay?  We know it's you.  We know how easy it is to falsify that information.  Stop trying to sleep with us all!  You won't throw us off now.  You've already confessed.
    Posted by LingerLonger1
    Sorry! You're so right. I was being a total cuunt earlier. Forgive me for lying about not being me.
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    In Response to Re: IDK what to do!! Help please (LONG, sorry):
    In Response to Re: IDK what to do!! Help please (LONG, sorry) : Awkward.
    Posted by AElover
    I agree. Especially the part about scissoring. Oh wait. I hadn't shared that yet. Nevermind.
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