Unique Wedding Situation

beatlesgirl25 · February 2010

I am really enjoying the new posting ideas that people are bringing in here. Yesterday rosaleen was changing the individual post titles to indicate who she was responding to, and now OP is pasting people's avatars when responding to them. Very cute.

onikki16 · February 2010

Thank you Scoetto for the advice. I do think you have something to start thinking about. Just sending invites to the courthouse marriage and letting them know that there will be a larger reception at a later date. Your advice really helped to start pulling ideas together, much appreciation.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · February 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_unique-wedding-situation?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:683bfed0-007f-4377-ac9f-3d3a30250caePost:0c13652c-6cbc-47ba-9f0f-0af110b377ad">Re: Unique Wedding Situation</a>:
[QUOTE]OH and, we were going to be saying, no gifts when we sent out invites for the large reception.
Posted by onikki16[/QUOTE]

You are not supposed to mention gifts at all in an invitation, so that's out too.

I understand you think a lot of people won't make it to Florida, so why not get married in WI? Or just have a very small wedding? I think you can make this work.

SteveandKris · February 2010

OP: There is also a military brides board under "special topic boards"

You will find your situation is not all that "unique" but that many people are trying to do the same thing as you.

onikki16 · February 2010

msmerymac :

Not everyone who would want to be there for the courthouse marriage would be able to afford the trip down to Florida. We would like to have a reception in their area after the courthouse marriage (year or so) that way they can have some sort of get together with everyone. That is our reason for doing it at a later date. Also, because the courthouse marriage is going to be in April (very very soon, and that isn't much of a notice to make plans to take a trip to Florida from WI or MI)
Thanks for the advice!

pumpkinpumpkin · February 2010

WTF is with these newbs? Does anyone else think this strain of them is a little worse than the last time there was a rush of them?

You're all just being snarty anyways.

beatlesgirl25 · February 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_unique-wedding-situation?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:683bfed0-007f-4377-ac9f-3d3a30250caePost:7eda1369-7359-4d4c-9a07-bcb85692b323">Re: Unique Wedding Situation</a>:
[QUOTE] I do believe what one of you said, don't waste my reading on the posts are being strong or what I considered rude. Thank you.
Posted by onikki16[/QUOTE]

Wait what? I still can't tell if you like me or not. :(

My point is that it is as ridiculous to ask us to filter out what you don't want to hear in our posts, as it is for you to filter out only what you want to read in said posts.

[Deleted User] · February 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_unique-wedding-situation?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:683bfed0-007f-4377-ac9f-3d3a30250caePost:30c4167c-bf3d-4daa-87fa-6bc341187f1b">Re: Unique Wedding Situation</a>:
[QUOTE]You're all just being snarty anyways.
Posted by pumpkinpumpkin[/QUOTE]
:snart:

Nebb · February 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_unique-wedding-situation?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:683bfed0-007f-4377-ac9f-3d3a30250caePost:30c4167c-bf3d-4daa-87fa-6bc341187f1b">Re: Unique Wedding Situation</a>:
[QUOTE]WTF is with these newbs? <strong>Does anyone else think this strain of them is a little worse than the last time there was a rush of them?</strong> You're all just being snarty anyways.
Posted by pumpkinpumpkin[/QUOTE]
You are correct

pooh8402 · February 2010

I wish we still had that waiting period before newbs could post. lurk for a while before posting, and the majority of questions will be answered.

aallenba · February 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_unique-wedding-situation?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:683bfed0-007f-4377-ac9f-3d3a30250caePost:ef6b09f9-7ae2-4541-a701-f3d79e839f36">Re: Unique Wedding Situation</a>:
[QUOTE]Oh, and FYI, what a scary group of people on this site. Sorry, but this is the first time i'm ever getting married, this is the first time i'm trying to plan a wedding, and I was never taught the etiquettes of a wedding; so my bad if this isn't a unique wedding situation. Another FYI: I understand now that it's RUDE AND GIFT GRABBY TO OFFER REGISTERY OPTIONS IN ANNOUNCEMENTS AND INVITES SO IF THATS WHAT YOU ARE GOING TO POST ABOUT SAVE YOUR TYPING. Thanks. If anyone has something ligit to add to my personal dillemma, it is much appreciated because I am a NEW BRIDE WITH NO EXPERIENCE.
Posted by onikki16[/QUOTE]

I've never been married before and this is my first time planning a wedding and I had enough common sense not to include registry info on my invites....if you're unsure check google first!'

MOBinFL2008 · February 2010

Announcements are always sent after the wedding just in case one person gets cold feet and the wedding doesn't happen.

You can register and let both of your moms know where you are registered. That way if someone asks, they can be given the information.

Gifts are not mentioned at all. You don't send registry information out and you don't say that you don't want gifts.

Since your court house wedding is going to be small and low key, why not just call your parents and tell them what you're planning and invite them. If I didn't know that my child was getting married until I got the invitation (or an announcement after the wedding) I'd be crushed.

After your wedding, when you send out the announcements, do not mention that you will be having a reception much further down the road. You never know what is going to happen, especially with the military. It could be two years before you can actually plan the party. When the time finally does come, you can send out party invitations with all the necessary information about the time and place.

Hope this helps!

JanoBean75 · February 2010

Not everyone is born knowing how to plan a wedding, but most of us know to go buy a book or a magazine about it. If you honestly know nothing, it really helps to access a planner -- either a book or the tools on the main site of The Knot.

Good luck.

sucrets4 · February 2010

Psh, this is my 14th wedding. I'm an old pro.

And 'ligit' made me laugh...and think to figure out what the hell it was.

khornack · February 2010

I had a friend in a similar crcumstance. There was a chance her fiance was going to be sent to Afghanistan and so they did a courthouse marriage (God forbid something would happen while he was gone, he wanted to make sure she was taken care of). He got a different assignment, and about three months later they had their religious ceremony followed by a formal reception. They decided in the interim not to live together until their religious ceremony, so they just sent out invites to the religious wedding as if they had not had the courthouse wedding. But if you are going to move in together for a year or so before your reception, I like the idea listed about of inviting everyone for a vow renewal and reception.

Also, just in case you hadn't found it yet, there is a "Military Weddings" under the Special Topic Wedding Boards, they may be able to help as well.

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