I had my bridal shower over a month ago and my MOH gave people around 3 weeks notice to it. One of my 'newer' friends (we're only friends b/c my FI works with her husband...I've only known them less than a year) rsvp'd yes. On the day of (literally AS the shower began) she texts me she was sick and wouldn't be able to make it. (Can't say I was completely surprised because 1- like I said we're not super close friends, and 2- many times she and her hubby have ditched us after plans were made...not saying she wasn't sick, but I just wasn't surprised she wouldnt be there.)
Like I said, we aren't that close of friends, so I wasn't really upset or anything by it too much. She also texted me that she has my gift and will give it to me soon, and also wanted to treat me to lunch sometime.
The next day, my FI and I returned a grill of theirs. She came to the door, appearing and sounding fine -although I guess you can get better in one day, who knows. She also told me she 'ordered the gift and it should get here any day.' So does that mean she had ordered a gift and it didn't get there in time, so she didn't want to go to the shower? Like I said, everyone was given 3 weeks notice, that is usually plenty of time to get something delivered to you. And even if she ordered it on the day of the shower, she defiinitely should've gotten it by now.
I think she is just brewing a big pile of BS. I don't expect gifts but when you say you're gonna do something, do it! Don't lie to me and say you're going to do/buy/whatever and then not live up to it.
And then the whole taking me out to lunch thing...? I'm not great friends with her, so it'd be weird being like "Dude, when are you gonna take me out?" I know she has been out of work for a long while, and I really wouldn't want her up on that pseudo-offer with her being out of work anyways.
This is just awkward and annoying at the same time. Why do people say they're going to do something and not live up to it? SHEESH!