Got married + a question

Re: Got married + a question

• Ms.BriarRose

  

  March 2010 edited December 2011

  Congrats!  I hope you have a wonderful and happiness filled lifetime with your love.
  
  My advice goes along the lines of ettiquette (I am a huge stickler for it, lol).  I would not write anything on the invitations, because doing so is considered tacky.  Instead, spread it through word of mouth, especially through your mom/MIL/BMs.  If you aren't having a bridal shower, chances are they (or you) will get questions about where you are registered.  At that point, you (or whomever is being asked) can reply with "we would greatly appreciate your presence being our gift" or something along those lines. 
  
  If you wish to put it in print, you can also put something to that affect on a wedding website.  Again, though, ettiquette says that you can't put a wedding website on your invitation, so it would have to be through word of mouth.  One way to get around this:  include an insert saying "for directions and accomodations information, please visit ::website::".  Then, when your guests go there for that info, they will click around and see about gifts (it's considered okay to place a direction insert like that in your invitations.  If you want to do both written directions included with the invitation as well as a website, put something like "for more info, please visit our website").
  
  Hope that helps!
  

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• FutureMrsTR

  

  March 2010 edited December 2011

  Ditto pp, mentioning gifts at all on the invitation even to say "no gifts" is considered rude because it implies that the person was going to give you one when really it's optional.

  
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• pinkcherryblossom

  

  March 2010 edited December 2011

     Thank you ladies, I remember hearing the etiquette about mentioning gifts on invites a while ago-but I hadn't gotten that far in my research for my own wedding.
  
     Lol guess I need to reference the huge stack of wedding books/magazines I have.
  
    I will be sure and leave any reference out of invites/inserts/etc and rely on our families to spread the word. We are blessed to have such awesome families that understand our eagerness to say our vows
  
    I was really worried about having this civil ceremony come off as "shotgun" or tacky. No offense to anyone else, but it turned out to be nice, low stress and meaningful to us. So I give it a thumb's up
  
     We are visiting a reception venue in a few weeks, the last one we visited---we were NOT impressed.
  
  
  Beth
  
  
  

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• Mattsbride10 member

  

  March 2010 edited December 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_delaware_got-married-question?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:77Discussion:3bf5e630-f955-4383-8231-a3966d57ace2Post:c34f3ab3-d601-4f34-bdb4-9e1001ad8c2b">Got married + a question</a>:
  [QUOTE]   . We want to emphasize to our guests that we are not gift-seeking by having another celebration, has anybody done this before? I would find it really tacky or embarrassing to have someone feel like they need to contribute.     I have seen some nice wording for invites and such, like "Only the gift of your presence is requested" Any other ideas? or how to word the invite? I suppose it will be a renewing of the vows? thanks! Beth
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  In my opinion I think its fine to use an invite like the one mentioned above. I'm sure you should have a fairly good idea as to how your  friends and family will react lto it(ie. are they really going to question your etiquette?) .  Word of mouth is fine too if you're sure it will reach everyone. Good luck.

  

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