Hi. I am in the middle of planning my July wedding and I am having problems with my mother on and off and its really getting to me and Im not sure what to do.
My fiance and I have been together almost 4 years and my mother has never been a fan of our relationship. She tolerates him and is nice to him in person but says things about him behind his back. I think it all boils down to the fact that she feels like he is taking me away from her (before him my mother and I were close and did things together and now we dont as much as we used to) and she doesnt feel like hes good enough for her only daughter(not a rich Italian doctor/lawyer etc.)
My fiance is a great guy and has always been great to me. He is a gentleman, hes polite, caring, kind and a hardworker. He doesnt have any bad habits, he loves animals and children and hes always been nice to my mother.
Anyway, since we have been planning the wedding my mom has had a problem with one thing after another. Now shes mad because she thinks the guest list is not equal among both sides and more of his family and friends are being invited than mine which isnt true since she actually has more friends and family on the list than his mother has. I had asked her for a list of who she wanted to invite and she gave it to me and now suddenly she wants to add people because its "not fair".
She has a crazy idea that I want nothing to do with my family and everything to do with his. I just dont want to have to fight her on everything and listen to all the nasty stuff she says and how Im an awful daughter. Btw, my fiance and I are paying for the wedding if that makes any difference. I just dont know what to do and if anyone has any advice it would be appreciated. TIA.