Hi ladies,
My wedding is in 26 days (eek!) and my sister (MOH), other sister and friend (BMs) originally decided they would try to pay for the bachelorette party entirely by themselves (there are 8 bms altogether). However, they quickly realized it was too much for just the 3 of them (they have small children and don't exactly make a killing), so they asked the other BM's to chip in a small amount (30 bucks). The only reason I even know about this is that my MOH sister called to ask me for advice as to how to respond to some of the girls, b/c I know them much better than she does. I didn't really know what to tell her... But there are a few different issues. For instance, one of them responded that it was incredibly "rude" and "tacky" for them to be inviting people to a party and then asking them to pay for it... Obviously she is unaware of the fact that etiquette dictates everyone chip in at the bachelorette party; she thinks it's the MOH's responsibility. The other girls have simply said that they will not be paying anything, as they cannot afford it. I know that it's not my responsibility to handle this, since my sisters are coordinating everything, but a part of me feels like it may be more effective if I say something, since they know me, but don't necessarily know my sisters. More than anything, I'm hurt that my closest friends don't seem to care enough to set aside literally about a dollar a day to chip in for my bachelorette party.... So, should I say something? Nicely, of course! If not, should I tell my sister to address it (she keeps asking me if she should), nicely of course, and if so, how? Or just tell her to drop it and cut her losses??
P.S. PLEEEEEASE no responses about how no one owes me a bachelorette party and no one has to do anything for me, etc. I KNOW all of that... The situation already is what it is, I am just asking for advice as to whether to address it and how to do so. Only NICE and helpful responses welcome here!
Thanks Knotties!