Hello all! I have a few questions about things I have seen on here and just was looking for some clarification. We have our first prep class Mar 14th. But, I am a worry wort and so the sooner I have answers the better lol.
1) The dress that I bought a month ago is strapless. Will this be a problem. it is tasteful in that I am not hanging out. I know my aunt's dress was strapless and she was married 5 years ago in the currch. So, does this vary from parish to parish? What about bridesmaid dresses?
2) I am a member of the church we are being married in. I have been attending, not every week as I should. But, regularily since last summer/ fall. But, I did not join until January. Will I be considered a nonmember since it has not been too long since I joined? I have not donated much becasue both my fiance and I are in school and do not have much extra money. I did not know that they tracked donations.
3) I am currently on the birth control pill. It was initially prescribed for medical reasons. But, we do use it as birth control. I am not opposed to Natural Family Planning. But, it concerns me because I know that was conceived while my parents were practicing it. We definately want children (4 hopefully) But, we want to get through school and get our careers established a bit first. Is it acceptable for me to stay on the pill for another 2 or 3 years and then use natural family planning. That way if it happens it is still ok? Am I going to be required to get off the pill to be married in the church?
I do not want to seem as if I am not taking the sacrament seriously. I do want to be married in the church because I believe it means more to me than anywhere else. I am just extremely self conscious becasue I realize that I am not following cannon law by taking birth control, living together, and not attending every Sunday. I feel funny going sometimes because I do not want others to find out I live with mmy future hubby and judge me. We moved in together for support and financial reasons and I do not feel that makes me any less Catholic than anyone else.
Sorry this is so long and thanks for any info you may have