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inviting priest to reception

AllieCat16AllieCat16
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so i made a big mistake apparently by not inviting the priest to the reception. i really didn't know this was a standard, ive never seen a priest at the reception.

do you think i should call him today and invite him ? or is it too last minute?

we did not know the priest prior to our 2 meetings with him.


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  • smw42smw42 member
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    edited December 2011
    They almost always decline the invite, as ours did, but I guess it's the gesture that matters? You could call if you feel the need but I don't think he'll think less of you for not inviting him. At this point I wouldn't sweat it.
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  • PeacefieldPeacefield member
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    edited December 2011
    Wow, it's pretty close!  The wedding official should always be invited.  It seems about half the time they come and half the time they don't.  I would say most that don't are Catholic priests.  But you should still extend the invitation.
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  • cutiepie12702cutiepie12702
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    edited December 2011
    I'm not inviting ours, as we met him one time and will not see him again until our wedding. If you don't have a relationship with them, I don't think you should feel obligated to invite them. We are having both a priest and a rabbi and the rabbi told us to send them an invite, so they have the directions...but she said not to include a response card - I don't think they ever attend the receptions, unless you have an actual longstanding relationship. The last couple of weddings I have attended did not have any clergy at them, except for one which had been their rabbi for many many years.
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  • kwilkinson14kwilkinson14
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_inviting-priest-reception?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:90Discussion:bd750d3a-a10b-4153-a974-74ff81f31e8bPost:97932e23-9336-4dd3-bd12-1183a77260a3">Re: inviting priest to reception</a>:
    [QUOTE]I'm not inviting ours, as we met him one time and will not see him again until our wedding. If you don't have a relationship with them, I don't think you should feel obligated to invite them. Posted by cutiepie12702[/QUOTE]

    I agree with this completely. I only met our priest once and we don't have a standing relationship with him. So we are not going to invite him to the reception.
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  • mbcdefgmbcdefg member
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    edited December 2011
    Invite him now if you wish.

    We invited ours kind of last-minute, and he came to the reception. But he's also a longtime framily friend because my parents are very active in our parish.
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  • jerseydeviljerseydevil member
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    edited December 2011
    I personally think it's a nice thought, but that you should only invite them if you consider them to be a family friend.

    Generally I see no need. We brought that up with our officiant at the first meeting and he said that he never attends even if invited. He did a few times and it was just awkward bc he didn't know anybody.
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  • carlaspeedcarlaspeed member
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    edited December 2011
    I just invited him today over the phone but I think he is busy later that day :-)
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  • Reilly626Reilly626 member
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    edited December 2011
    We did and he declined.  We also invited him to the rehearsal dinner, but he had to prepare for a funeral.  They usually are too busy.
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