In lieu of favors..

beckles403 · June 2011

Anyone else doing charity donations? My dad died in 2004 of ALS (Lou Gehrig's Disease) and I'm planning on making cardstock cards that say "In lieu of favors a donation has been made to the ALS association in Robert --------'s name" and on the left of the card i'll be pinning an ALS awareness ribbon for people to take home. Does that sound okay? My colors are sky blue and navy and the ALS ribbon is white with navy pinstriping and I was planning on making the cards sky blue. Any input/suggestions? Better wording? I'm all ears!

allisonkbye · June 2011

love it!

cmp1986 · June 2011

I love it!! Most of the time money is wasted on favors. So I say go for it!! It's better because it's something that means a lot to you.

beckles403 · June 2011

Okay, good! Thank you ladies.. just wanted to make sure people aren't going to think it's a bad idea. I don't want to make the day all about how my dad isn't there but I'd like to honor him.

Thanks again!

GoodLuckBear14 · June 2011

Hi Guest - To thank you for coming to our wedding, we have a little gift for you. Where is it? Oh, no. You don't understand. You aren't getting it; someone else is.

Please don't pretend this is a favor. People don't expect favors at weddings so just don't do them. Make your donation but don't tell people what they aren't getting. If it really means that much to you to donate to ALS, why not ask guests to donate to this instead of giving you a gift. Too much? How about you and your FI making a donation as your gift to eachother.

Oh...and you've heard from 2 people. Many, many, many people actually think this is a bad idea. Here are some past threads for you to look through.

http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_favors_charity-donations?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:27Discussion:26fa9ee4-6301-4700-a6fe-8e05270d749fPost:8a35bcd9-4546-4473-b945-d57fb16bb600

http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_favors_carity-favor?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:27Discussion:a8add106-428b-4be1-a24e-552775c0a15bPost:304e58d6-add5-44dd-a216-b2f9df05a9f3

http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_favors_favors-mean-something?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:27Discussion:3898d691-a8c8-4093-ae31-1043af563195Post:a89f7b4d-770b-48fc-8e13-dc32db0b5f25

http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_favors_donation-lieu-of-favors-ammount?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:27Discussion:5a4ed765-dd8d-42cb-b488-dc53097a89d8Post:fc518e7b-bd7f-44e2-a601-1ccb531c6b73

CassieeK · June 2011

Did you read the sticky on this topic at the top of board?

GoodLuckBear14 · June 2011

Forget it Cassie. The Mod didn't close it and a bunch of Newbies decided to post all over it how wonderful an idea it is. Now the sticky is messed up and gives a distorted impression.

j_jaye · June 2011

I agree with GoodLuckBear- while it is greta that you want to donate to this charity in honour of your late father it really isn't a favour to your guests (unles you are going to give me the receipt so I can claim it on my tax). Whilst the charity is close to your heart it may not be for some of your guests. A lot of people have issue with how certain charities administer donations and others would prefer a donation to a different charity (if it is indeed a favour to them).

allisonkbye · June 2011

She clearly said "In lieu of favors" not "as a favor".

blush64 · June 2011

It's not necessary to say "in lieu of favours". They aren't required and you don't owe anyone an excuse as to why they don't have one.

Why point out that you are donating? Do it for the good of donating.

RKPugs · July 2011

We're doing that to.

You should definitely do it. It will be a really nice way to remember your father.

kaykay1126 · July 2011

I personally don't see what the fuss is about in saying that you donated. I would not think someone was seeking a pat on the back for it. I would be impressed and it would inspire me to maybe think about how I am spending my money.

Why do people have to be so cutthroat at this? I love the idea. We are donating to local animal shelters. I do not want to send a check for fear that it will be used for non-essentials like advertising and office supplies. Instead, we are going to the pet store and purchasing food and collars and dropping them off at the two shelters we adopted our dogs from. That way we know the money is used for the dogs.

I say go for it. Use the cards and the pins. If anyone says you are selfish or needing attention, they need to look at their own problems first....

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