When I got engaged a year ago, I already knew who I wanted to include in my bridal party: my 2 sisters, my sister-in-law & 2 of my best friends. I'm getting married in a month & now I have a dilemma! About 7 months ago, there was a fight between my 2 best friends. I sort of got stuck in the middle and drifted apart from one of my friends (bridesmaid) that I had very much considered making my maid of honor. We were inseparable! Talked on the phone everyday, had never had a fight in the 5 1/2 years of our friendship… she was my partner in crime. Unfortunately, we didn't speak for 2 months after the incident happened but I never thought about removing her from my bridal party because I was certain we would work things out on time for the wedding. Well… we've tried getting together & talking… basically, trying to make it what it use to be but in almost 4 months of attempting it, it is still very awkward when we talk. I don't like the person she became in only the 2 months we stopped talking. I have seriously considered removing her from my bridal party & replacing her with another close friend of mine. The problem is that even though I know things will never be the same between her & I, I can't seem to let go of what use to be. Its like I keep hoping that things will magically get better but now my wedding is one month away & I don't see that happening.
What do I do? I know that removing her from my bridal party is pretty much ending our friendship, but deep down inside, I know that things will never be the same or even come close to what they use to be… no matter how hard I try to hold onto the past. This has been the worst stress I've had to deal with throughout the whole wedding process! AND to add on… 1) she hates my other bridesmaid to the point where she doesn't want to have to deal with her. 2) She hasn't paid me back for the bridesmaid dress which I paid for so that the orders could come in together 3) she hasn't taken part in any of the wedding planning/events (including bachelorette party although my sister-in-law & friend -who she now hates- contacted her directly to let her know about the bachelorette planning) & lastly, my fiancee no longer likes her. OH BOY! What a headache!