I just wanted to thank everyone for their responses from my thread yesterdayhttp://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_nwr-funeral-etiquette
I will say, it was a bit awkward at the church today. FI was a pallbearer, so we were not seated together. I was the only person who did not pray, or get up to receive communion out of everyone that attended the funeral, maybe 40 people total (FI and his sisters all did, even though it was probably sacreligious since none of them go to church anymore). No one asked me about it though, so that was good. I am familiar with the peace offering, but I didn't really shake hands with anyone........where I was sitting I ended up near all of the family that has been sick and getting over the flu, and since I woke up this morning with a sore throat and congestion I really didn't want to touch anyone or be touched by anyone that was sick.
FI's parents saw that I did not get up to receive communion, but in the end maybe it was a good thing. We are not having a church wedding, and I know FI's parents (especially his mom) was pretty up in arms about it. They mostly complained to his sisters, never FI or me, so I am not sure that they even knew about my lack of religious upbringing, so perhpas today provided some insight as to why we aren't getting married in a church.