I've been planning since August 10' and our wedding is now 2 1/2 months away (in July). These past months have been SO very stressful for me, aside from having to plan the wedding, I am a student. So needless to say I don't need any extra stressors.
FYI: My parents have offered to pay for the wedding
Now for the issue at hand, My FMIL is pushy! MY FI is completely on the otherside of that spectrum. I am irritated! My issue with her started months ago. When we first got engaged, his aunt was trying to offer us some of her old dishes and furniture, that was extremely dated and not at all our style. While it is free, neither of us wanted it, and wouldnt be a strech to buy our own, so we declined. His mother tells his aunt that we'll take it until we find something new. And moves is here. Um, what?! Long story short: We didn't take it.
Second issue, the guest lists. When we frst compiled the guest list it was well over 300 people. Our venue only hold 175 so he HAD to cut it down. Long story short, after making an agreement with my fiancee that we would only invite those who we know would show and those who we are close to, his mother insists that the people on HER list must be there. These are people my FI doesnt even know mind you. Long story short: They are not on the list
I'll skip down the timeline to present day. Just know that from then to now, we've bumped heads about our colors, the guest list again, and some other non wedding related stuff. So last week she called to ask who we wanted to invite to the dinner and in what city we wanted it to be in. I told her just the parents and the bridal party and the city/general area I wanted to keep it in.
Then this past weekend she TELLS me that she's pretty sure other guests would want to come to the rehearsal party so we should plan for them and that she reserved a block of rooms for extra guests. WHAT?!
What extra guests could she possibly be talking about when we have a limit of 175 and we've already told her that we have blocks of rooms reserved. And why would guests will have information about the rehearsal dinner, which is two days before the wedding, unless she's told them about it. We have a reception provided for the guests on the wedding day, they are not needed at a rehearsal dinner and more importantly, I dont want them there. And why is she, a guest herself, reserving a block of rooms without telling me anything beforehand.
My FI thinks I'm overreacting becasue I should "know how she is by now". How she is, doesn't matter. If the ONE thing I've asked for her to do is leave the decision making to us because it is OUR wedding, I shouldnt have to ask twice. IInitially I tried to have her involved and she just started trying to take over so I did leave her out. I dont think I'm wrong for that. She gets the necessary information just like everyone else, she's just not a part of the desicion making process anymore. Why on earth is it so hard for to accept that we are adults who are capable of making sound decisions and butt out?
So this wknd my fiancee came to her AGAIN, about her pushiness and now she's mad at me and thinks I'm being unreasonable. So we're (his mother and I) not talking. But even now, she doesn't quit because now she's asking why we didn't consult her before sending out the invitations this past Monday. What, consult her?!?!?! I am so through with this woman, please help!
WHAT CAN I DO?! Here I am trying my best to plan this "big' wedding and she's making it one of the most stressful times. Shouldn't this be exciting?