Even if no one reads this, I must just get it out! My parents are driving me crazy! My wedding is in 9 days, I'm getting married back in my home town which is a hour from were my fiance and I live, so because it's the week before the wedding (and the lease on my apartment is up and my fiance and I aren't living together until we're married) I moved back home for a week. Right away when I walked in the door my mom was on me about stuff. And then when I didn't like her idea (we plan to grill /picnic for our grooms dinner, she wants to grill the burgers that morning and keep them warm in a roaster so people don't have to wait for food, we want to grill at the park, plus we already asked my FI's brother to do the grilling) anyway, when I didn't like her idea she was like "Am I not going out of my way to do things for you? You HAVE to BEND on SOME things." Yes, my mother is doing a lot, she's been planning, did our flowers, and is doing our cake (that too has been a battle of the I want/she wants), but this comment really bugged me. I've given into SO much, there are very few things I've been firm about, wanting to grill and allow HIS family (who is coming 800 miles) to be a part is one of the things I'm firm on. Then, later my dad made a comment that really bugged me. My fiance is still working through Monday,(he works overnights) but has Sunday off, so, since I wouldn't otherwise get to see him until the WEDNESDAY NIGHT before our wedding, he is going to come up on Sunday to visit and told me to ask if he could stay the night. So I told my parents, FI is coming on Sunday and staying the night. Later on I joked with my dad about how my FI said to make sure it was okay. My dads response? "Well it would have been nice if you asked us first." I thought he was joking. But he was like "I'm half serious, not that its a big deal, but it would have been nice." Okay, maybe I'm being a HUGE bridezilla, and assuming too much, maybe I went about it wrong and I should have said FI is coming Sunday is it okay if he stays not he's going to stay, but honestly? This man will be my HUSBAND in 9 days, and my dad made it seem like I needed to ask permission for a friend to stay the night! I felt all of the sudden like I was 16 and in trouble again, not 27 and getting married in a week! I mean once we're married am I supposed to ask if it's okay if he comes with me to visit and we sleep in the same bed? My parents LOVE my FI, so this really caught me by surprise. And what sucks, is I can't tell my FI about it, because then he'll feel weird. Was this too big an assumption? That the man I'm marrying in 9 days, could come up and visit me, and stay the night, (in a seperate room mind you!, because we ARE that respectful) without having to ask permission first? I was just so taken aback by the comment. And if it's not a big deal, then why say something like that? Knowing I've had a bad day and already had a melt down with my mom? Why say something that could be so hurtful, that he knew hurt me, because he quickly backpeddled and was like,"don't worry about it, it's ok, it just would have been nice." I guess, maybe I was disrespectful, but I mean, really? If this is how the next 9 days are going to go I don't know if I'm going to make it, or if I'm going to come home for quite a while after we're married. I just really felt like I was being told that my FI's not wanted. Maybe they want me to themselves this week, I don't know.Sorry for the long rant, I just needed to type it out, even if no one reads or responds, I just needed to vent and get passed it.