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Walking down the aisle with my son

megleigh86megleigh86 member
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I have 3 children from a previous marriage. At the time of our wedding my oldest girl will be 8 and my twins (boy and girl) will be 4 1/2. I know that I want my daughters to be co-flower girls. I am wondering however, if it would be weird to have my son walk me down the aisle being as he will be so young still. I don't have a relationship with my own father, so I thought this would be a better alternative and a good way to include my son in the ceremony. ( I have several other choices for a ring-bearer) Does anyone have any thoughts on this at all? It is much appreciated!
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  • Marrin713Marrin713 member
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    edited December 2011
    I think I'd rather walk the aisle by myself. 
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  • right1thistimeright1thistime member
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    Just be careful of the language you use to describe it.  A friend had her son escort her, and someone referred to him as "giving her away".  On her wedding night, she got a call from her mom, who had her son, who was hysterical, "I - don't want --to --give --her --awayyyyyyyyy.  I -- want -- her ---baaa-aaacccckk!"
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  • JostMarriedJostMarried
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    @right1thistime - I don't mean to laugh, but that is funny.
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  • Marrin713Marrin713 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_second-weddings_walking-down-aisle-son?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:35Discussion:48094046-41e9-4be4-93b1-2683582375d4Post:839ddb41-5950-4de0-bafc-007159a7ff94">Re: Walking down the aisle with my son</a>:
    [QUOTE]Just be careful of the language you use to describe it.  A friend had her son escort her, and someone referred to him as "giving her away".  On her wedding night, she got a call from her mom, who had her son, who was hysterical, "I - don't want --to --give --her --awayyyyyyyyy.  I -- want -- her ---baaa-aaacccckk!"
    Posted by right1thistime[/QUOTE]

    Oh that poor kid!
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  • blush64blush64 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_second-weddings_walking-down-aisle-son?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:35Discussion:48094046-41e9-4be4-93b1-2683582375d4Post:0ee938ef-23fd-427c-bc25-1f764b2e9567">Re: Walking down the aisle with my son</a>:
    [QUOTE]@right1thistime - I don't mean to laugh, but that is funny.
    Posted by JostMarried[/QUOTE]

    That is sad, but so cute. Poor kid.

    The look of that is why I won't have sons walk me down the aisle. They aren't giving me to anyone.

    EDITED I don't want to soud cruel, I don't think it was cute he was hurt, just that kids can be so literal.

    I really like the idea of joining the family instead, as mentioned by other posters.
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  • squarepeg72squarepeg72
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    edited December 2011
    My son is walking me down the aisle and the children are asking FH to joim our family instead of giving me away.
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  • MeghannsixMeghannsix member
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    I really like the idea of asking FH to join the family, instead of being "given away"

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  • ski2playski2play member
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    edited December 2011
    Agreed on the thought of having future husband join the family vs giving me away.  My son is giving me away and then standing next to his sister as my "dude of honor" on my side.  I think he would be okay with the thought of "giving me away" but then he is 19 years old! 

    Oh from the mouths of babes!
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  • oneday12oneday12
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    edited December 2011
    I have an 11 year old son that I immediately said would not walk me down the aisle! He would not do well with the "giving away" aspect of the job. Do to my father's dementia there is a big possibility that he may not be able to walk me down the aisle. I decided that for the last 11 years I have been on my own, took care of myself and my son so I don't need anyone to walk me down the aisle! I am independent enough to walk myself down!  I am not lacking in available escorts (4 brothers) but I just feel strongly that if my father is unable to do it I will do it by myself like I have done so much (and pretty damn well if I do say so myself)! I think you should have you little man be your ring bearer, he will be adorable!  



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  • lindaloulubbocklindaloulubbock
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    edited December 2011
    My four and half year old son escorted me down the aisle, he handed my hand to my husband, and he stood next to him for most of the ceremony.  

    He had the choice of walking with his 6 year old sister/my daughter, the flower girl, or with me, and he wanted to walk with me.  If he hadn't walked with me, I would have walked by myself.  We didn't make a big deal out of it, and it worked out fine.  He did insist on carrying a "ring box" down the aisle, though, lol. 

    I will say that the moment I shared with my children before we all walked down the aisle was very special to me...I'm very glad that they were there with me. 
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  • jerzmom114jerzmom114 member
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    edited December 2011
    My 10 year old son will be walking me down the aisle, and we do not consider him "giving me away" , but  as my escort. ( I also have a 9 year old son, we were going to have one on either side of me, but he does not want the spotlight at all ) . Congrats and good luck OP :)
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  • Forbiswedding2012Forbiswedding2012
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    edited December 2011
    I'm getting married for my 2nd time. I'm soo excited! My son is going to be 13 at the time and my daughter will be 7. He will be walking me down the isle to my future hubby. We are having him then be a Jr. Groomsmen and my daughter will be a Jr. Brides maid. THey are both to big for flower girl or ring bearer... She thinks she's 20! I am soo excited to walk down the isle with my son. I got married once, my adopted dad walked me down.. I am not a big daddy's girl kinda girl.. being I've had several "dads" in my life bio, adopted, nlaw, friends dads.... I can't have my x nlaw walk me down it wouldnt be "kosher" so I'm going to have MIkey who has been the main man in my life since he was concieved. HE will ask Daniel to join OUR family we were the Three Muskateers... we are just adding a newbie!
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  • LlrhelmLlrhelm member
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    edited December 2011
    My son is 24, and has a very close relationship with his Dad (He still lives with him 3500 miles from me)
    I originally had asked him to "walk" me down the aisle. My Daughter (22) is my MOH. So I wanted them both included in the ceremony.
    My son, politely refused. Which, initially hurt, but I am ok with the decision now. I dont want to make him uncomfortable.

    What we will be doing instead is one of two things;  my FH will walk down the aisle with me OR I will walk down by myself....We havent decided yet which one.
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