what do you think about this?

orangehills · August 2012

http://shine.yahoo.com/photos/couple-23-weddings-around-world-slideshow-193000087/wedding-1-didsbury-england-photo-2474526-193000780.html

So, just to make convo.. what do you guys think about this couple who is getting "married" everywhere? Would you do this in that short amount time? I feel like I wouldn't really feel like it was very special after the 2nd or 3rd...

Spunky414 · August 2012

Looks like a whole bunch of cultural appropriation to me. Pretty distasteful.

Jessie42613 · August 2012

I don't really see the attraction of selling all your posessions in order to have a marriage ceremony in 2 dozen countries.

vk2204 · August 2012

I think it is extremely AWish. I think it would be pretty awesome to maybe celebrate every anniversary in a different country, but to recreate a wedding is just lame.

lcatterton · August 2012

I think this is amazing and inspirational. It's not like they are having the same exact wedding in every country, they are venturing out into the world and experiencing the custom of getting married in the many different ways that it is celebrated throughout the world. I would love to be able to travel the globe and learn about and experience so many different cultures. I bet these people have amazing stories. What an interesting couple!

erbear84 · August 2012

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[QUOTE]I don't really see the attraction of selling all your posessions in order to have a marriage ceremony in 2 dozen countries.
Posted by Jessie42613[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>That was my reaction. And none of these are even legal ceremonies?

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vk2204 · August 2012

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[QUOTE]I think this is amazing and inspirational. It's not like they are having the same exact wedding in every country, they are venturing out into the world and experiencing the custom of getting married in the many different ways that it is celebrated throughout the world. I would love to be able to travel the globe and learn about and experience so many different cultures. I bet these people have amazing stories. What an interesting couple!
Posted by lcatterton[/QUOTE]

I find it rude. A lot of different cultural wedding ceremonies are based off of religion. I am Catholic, and if a non practicing couple wanted to get married in a Catholic church just for kicks I find that insulting and disrespectful. I would never have a different cultural wedding just because I thought it looked cool.

lcatterton · August 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: what do you think about this? : I find it rude. A lot of different cultural wedding ceremonies are based off of religion. I am Catholic, and if a non practicing couple wanted to get married in a Catholic church just for kicks I find that insulting and disrespectful. I would never have a different cultural wedding just because I thought it looked cool.
Posted by vk2204[/QUOTE]

In many of the countries they visited they commented on being welcome with open arms to perform certain ceremonial rituals that those countries are accustomed to. I'd find it very respectful that someone was interested in my culture enough that they wanted to experience it for themselves. Clearly, you do not agree with me, and that is fine. We're each entitled to our own opinions. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-smile.gif" border="0" alt="Smile" title="Smile" />

In many other countries, people are much more accepting of outsiders when it comes to their religion or cultures and love sharing their traditions and rituals with said outsiders. I think it's absolutely remarkable when people come together and set their differences aside and allow people to be one with their kind (even if only for one ceremony).

orangehills · August 2012

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[QUOTE]I think it is extremely AWish. I think it would be pretty awesome to maybe celebrate every anniversary in a different country, but to recreate a wedding is just lame.
Posted by vk2204[/QUOTE]

Agreed. I mean, it's one thing to do it for yourself, or an anniversary, but to do this and take a ton of pictures to put up on a blog and brag to the world? I don't know... It just makes a wedding seem ordinary, like it's easy to do anytime in any culture or religion even though you aren't actually getting married or are part of that culture or religion. What's the point? I'd rather just travel to those places of the world and visit! But that's just me.

Spunky414 · August 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: what do you think about this? : I find it rude. A lot of different cultural wedding ceremonies are based off of religion. I am Catholic, and if a non practicing couple wanted to get married in a Catholic church just for kicks I find that insulting and disrespectful. I would never have a different cultural wedding just because I thought it looked cool.
Posted by vk2204[/QUOTE]

<div>So much this. It really blows my mind that people can think that this is okay. It's extra distasteful since they pointed out they didn't want to get married in a church (more like the Church has rules preventing this nonsense) but it's totally fine to try on a bunch of different native people's religions for funzies. Just because a few people from a particular culture ok it doesn't make it right. Their blog is totally AWish and the way they keep referring to a wedding as a performance is beyond irreverant. </div>

mabapunta · August 2012

I find it interesting...because I bet they're having a blast! Must be nice to completely give up work and travel and spend money. Although I'm way too paranoid to live that freely, so more power to them in that sense. It definitely is very showy tho. Not sure if I can say it's totally just cultural appreciation, or even super appreciation for weddings and getting married. Kind of seems like a continuous party and celebration about them. But whatever - people have done worse things.

vk2204 · August 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: what do you think about this? : In many of the countries they visited they commented on being welcome with open arms to perform certain ceremonial rituals that those countries are accustomed to. <strong>I'd find it very respectful that someone was interested in my culture enough that they wanted to experience it for themselves.</strong> Clearly, you do not agree with me, and that is fine. We're each entitled to our own opinions. In many other countries, people are much more accepting of outsiders when it comes to their religion or cultures and love sharing their traditions and rituals with said outsiders. I think it's absolutely remarkable when people come together and set their differences aside and allow people to be one with their kind (even if only for one ceremony).
Posted by lcatterton[/QUOTE]

I think there is a difference between learning about a culture and making a mockery about it for the sake of a blog. It is degrading because they are not doing it because they actually care about it, they are doing it for the sake of attention. It takes away the meaning and validity of a wedding ceremony, especially by doing it over and over and over.

Take away the marriage ceremony and I think it is a pretty awesome thing they are doing. Hell if they did the ceremony a few times I might be okay with it. But after awhile each one is just another item to cross of the list and that is what bothers me.

vk2204 · August 2012

Also, it could be a huge slap in the face to same sex couples who can't legally get married and they are reading about a couple who is getting married just for the sake of crossing something off their bucket list.

orangehills · August 2012

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[QUOTE]Also, it could be a huge slap in the face to same sex couples who can't legally get married and they are reading about a couple who is getting married just for the sake of crossing something off their bucket list.
Posted by vk2204[/QUOTE]

This. Seriously

lcatterton · August 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: what do you think about this? : I think there is a difference between learning about a culture and making a mockery about it for the sake of a blog. It is degrading because<strong> they are not doing it because they actually care about it, they are doing it for the sake of attention.</strong> It takes away the meaning and validity of a wedding ceremony, especially by doing it over and over and over. Take away the marriage ceremony and I think it is a pretty awesome thing they are doing. Hell if they did the ceremony a few times I might be okay with it. But after awhile each one is just another item to cross of the list and that is what bothers me.
Posted by vk2204[/QUOTE]

I totally agree with the way that they are parading around on their blog and using this as a show is a bit unnecessary. However, did you ask them why they are doing this? Maybe they do care about the various cultures they are visiting.

I completely understand why this offends so many, because you have deep seeded beliefs in the sanctity of the ceremony of marriage. However, the way that I see it is, marriage along with every single culture/religion on this planet was created by humans (they certainly weren't around before humans and definitely will die off when the human race is gone), so all humans should be allowed to enjoy whatever they choose during their very short time on this earth. If that's one wedding in Coal Valley, IL, great! If that's 23 weddings all over the globe, more power to you! That's just me though! <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-smile.gif" border="0" alt="Smile" title="Smile" />

lcatterton · August 2012

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[QUOTE]Also, it could be a huge slap in the face to same sex couples who can't legally get married and they are reading about a couple who is getting married just for the sake of crossing something off their bucket list.
Posted by vk2204[/QUOTE]

This is irrelevant. Me getting married in Illinois could be a huge slap in the face to same sex couples who legally can't. Does this mean I am to avoid inviting these people to my wedding so that they don't have to witness something they can't have?

vk2204 · August 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: what do you think about this? : This is irrelevant. Me getting married in Illinois could be a huge slap in the face to same sex couples who legally can't. Does this mean I am to avoid inviting these people to my wedding so that they don't have to witness something they can't have?
Posted by lcatterton[/QUOTE]

It is totally relevant. And yes, you getting married COULD be a slap in the face; depending on someone's point of view. Like you said it is all about a person's opinion; and that is mine. If I couldn't legally get married and I read that article; I would be upset. Why? Because to ME they are taking away the importance of the ceremony and making into a challenge, all for the sake of entertainment.

lcatterton · August 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: what do you think about this? : It is totally relevant. And yes, you getting married COULD be a slap in the face; depending on someone's point of view. Like you said it is all about a person's opinion; and that is mine. If I couldn't legally get married and I read that article; I would be upset. Why? Because to ME they are taking away the importance of the ceremony and making into a challenge, all for the sake of entertainment.
Posted by vk2204[/QUOTE]

Touche! All of this being said, it is very neat to think about the different traditions and customs that are celebrated through weddings all over the world. I find it fascinating some of the things cultures partake in! What a wonderful world we live in!!!

vk2204 · August 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: what do you think about this? : Touche! All of this being said,<strong> it is very neat to think about the different traditions and customs that are celebrated through weddings all over the world</strong>. I find it fascinating some of the things cultures partake in! What a wonderful world we live in!!!
Posted by lcatterton[/QUOTE]

I 100% agree. I think the couple should have celebrated WITH people getting married, and not have done a ceremony themselves, ya know? I think that would have been awesome to read about.

shipsinthenight · August 2012

Wow, what contentious opinions this topic has resulted in...I'm pretty surprised to be honest. Now, I've been a Christian my whole life, confirmed in the Methodist church, and am on the church staff. I know why some people get offended by others "playing" at a religion, but I don't think that's what this is. And while I love God, and believe in the Christian church, I also believe that God can manifest him/herself however he/she wants. If that's in the Mayan religion, Jewdism, Hinduism, Native American religion, Budhism, so be it. I think there's a major problem with humanity making God too small. Yes, God wants us to recognise and worship him, but if the only way you know God is as some other diety, I don't think He minds so much. If you believe that God is Love, then you ought to believe that God is present wherever people are practicing love. So if you approach each religious practice, including marriage, with that in mind and in a spirit of appropriate reverence, I don't see it as insulting to any particular culture. And as for this being better if they were just attending a wedding in each culture, I dissagree. I went to a wedding performed in Spanish, and even though I sort of knew what was going on, I'm sure I would have had a better understanding if I'd been personally involved. I do think the whole thing would make more sense if they were doing this every year on their anniversary though. To me, repeating the wedding rituals in each country in rapid succession is less meaningful than experiencing them each year. What if they (God forbid) get divorced within the next few years. Getting married over 30 times doesn't make your marriage 30 times stronger...

And on the artistic side, the pictures are really cool, and I love the one underwater.

vk2204 · August 2012

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[QUOTE]Wow, what contentious opinions this topic has resulted in...I'm pretty surprised to be honest. Now, I've been a Christian my whole life, confirmed in the Methodist church, and am on the church staff. I know why some people get offended by others "playing" at a religion, but I don't think that's what this is. And while I love God, and believe in the Christian church, I also believe that God can manifest him/herself however he/she wants. If that's in the Mayan religion, Jewdism, Hinduism, Native American religion, Budhism, so be it. I think there's a major problem with humanity making God too small. Yes, God wants us to recognise and worship him, but if the only way you know God is as some other diety, I don't think He minds so much. If you believe that God is Love, then you ought to believe that God is present wherever people are practicing love. So if you approach each religious practice, including marriage, with that in mind and in a spirit of appropriate reverence, I don't see it as insulting to any particular culture. And as for this being better if they were just attending a wedding in each culture, I dissagree. I went to a wedding performed in Spanish, and even though I sort of knew what was going on, I'm sure I would have had a better understanding if I'd been personally involved. I do think the whole thing would make more sense if they were doing this every year on their anniversary though. To me, repeating the wedding rituals in each country in rapid succession is less meaningful than experiencing them each year. What if they (God forbid) get divorced within the next few years. Getting married over 30 times doesn't make your marriage 30 times stronger... And on the artistic side, the pictures are really cool, and I love the one underwater.
Posted by shipsinthenight[/QUOTE]

These people aren't even legally married. It says, right in their blog, that they will pick their favorite <strong>place</strong> to go back to and get married. So yes, I find that highly insulting to perform a mock wedding, just for entertainment's sake. God has no part in their experience. They aren't doing this for the sake of experiencing new cultures, they are doing it for attention. Dude, they are even asking for donations for their registry. But hey, you better go all out for these people because you might be the lucky place they want to have their "REAL" wedding at.

bdpbride · August 2012

I didn't read the blog so I can't say how they are coming across - I do think that based on the idea, its a pretty awesome adventure to be on - and the things they are learning and experiencing is something that most never will. And if they are embracing it in the spirit of learning about other cultures and finding a place that their heart fits a certain religion or culture, then I don't necessarily see that as a bad thing. I would want people to experience my religion and culture and all the wonderful things about it. It all depends on how respectful they are of the people they are joining and the cultures they are entering. If they aren't taking it seriously or being respectful then thats another thing.

LCatterton - I was amused at your Coal Valley, IL comment as I figured not many must know where that is! You must be an Eastern Iowa or Quad City bride?!

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