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Wedding Mass Rundown

waitingformaywaitingformay
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I am having a mass for my wedding but I haven't been to a Catholic wedding before. I've been to Christian ceremonies but not Catholic.

So I was wondering how wedding stuff is integrated into the mass. For example, does the priest process in? When? When do we say the vows, get pronounced husband and wife? Can someone give me a rundown of the order please?
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    edited December 2011
    Check out catholicweddinghelp.com

    Your church may also have a guide to give you or I know that our parish had one on their website.
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  • Calypso1977Calypso1977 member
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    it seems to vary.  some priests process, others just enter from the side.

    ours entered from the side.

    also, the priest usually doesnt say "i now pronounce you" or "you may kiss the bride". 

    also, if you have the mass in English (Novus Ordo) your vows, etc. are done in the middle.  if you have mass in Latin (1962 missal) you are married at the very beginning, then the Mass starts.

    your priest should be able to guide you on all of this.
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  • Calypso1977Calypso1977 member
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    also, nuptial masses are open to the public - you shoudl try to check one out at either your church or another area church. 
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  • waitingformaywaitingformay
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    edited December 2011
    Thank you very much!! The website is great. I realized I had no idea of the order and was curious. We are doing the mass in English.

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  • agapecarrieagapecarrie member
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    Normal Sunday mass, the rite of marriage happens after the homily, before the intercessions.

    The difference is there is no Gloria or creed at the mass, unless possibly on a Solemnity or Sunday.
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  • mica178mica178 member
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    For the tiny specifics, you'll need to talk with your priest.  

    My priest's preference was to process in first, then the groomsmen and H came in, then we did the "traditional" American processional.  This is not necessarily typical.  Traditionally, for Catholic weddings the bride and groom process together (ask Calypso), but over the years, my priest slowly changed his practice.  *Shrug*

    We had our ceremony outside of Mass.  Our vows occurred after he priest's homily.  After the vows, there were the Intercessions, then our soloist sang, then there were closing prayers, at which point the priest introduced (but did not "pronounce" us) us and we kissed (again, no "You may now kiss the bride").  
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  • Calypso1977Calypso1977 member
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    yes, we processed in together!  it was wonderful and i highly recommend.  it was a great feeling to approach the altar together for our sacrament, rather than someone escorting me to be "given away" to some man waiting at the front for his "prize".  (sorry, i hate hate hate the symbolism and tradition of the bride being escorted).
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_catholic-weddings_wedding-mass-rundown?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:615Discussion:838619e0-ddc9-483f-92ce-1e42e05dd115Post:0c8efd33-cc7b-4c85-a6cb-661743b4da1a">Re: Wedding Mass Rundown</a>:
    [QUOTE]yes, we processed in together!  it was wonderful and i highly recommend.  it was a great feeling to approach the altar together for our sacrament, rather than someone escorting me to be "given away" to some man waiting at the front for his "prize".  (sorry, i hate hate hate the symbolism and tradition of the bride being escorted).
    Posted by Calypso1977[/QUOTE]

    Huh - my priest said the Catholic tradition was that whoever brought you for baptism brings you for the sacrament of marriage....my mom and dad are both walking me down the isle.

    I think this is a lovely idea of both coming of your own free will to receive the sacrament.  It would break my mom's heart though not to be able to "give me away."  I was relieved because I think my stepdad felt bad he was going to be left out, even though I couldn't have that many people walk me down!  LOL
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  • lindzi375lindzi375
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    I walk with my parents half way around the church and meet fiance and his parents in the middle. Then our parents leave and FI and I approach the altar together!

    Mica-how long was your ceremony w/out mass? i know they all differ. also, what did he say when he 'pronounced' you and your husband?
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  • agapecarrieagapecarrie member
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    There is technically no "pronouncing". After the vows, the priest/deacon says what God has joined....

    At the end, usually, they introduce you.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_catholic-weddings_wedding-mass-rundown?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:615Discussion:838619e0-ddc9-483f-92ce-1e42e05dd115Post:9a0d49cf-d700-403d-994b-4158aba8db74">Re: Wedding Mass Rundown</a>:
    [QUOTE] Mica-how long was your ceremony w/out mass? i know they all differ. also, what did he say when he 'pronounced' you and your husband?
    Posted by lindzi375[/QUOTE]

    <div>I think the ceremony was about 45 minutes.  At the end of all of the prayers, singing, the priest said, "I would like to introduce you to Mr. and Mrs. [LastName]."  We kissed then and recessed.</div>
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  • lindsaynewbride10lindsaynewbride10 member
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    Yea you really just need to sit down and talk that out with your Priest/Deacon. Every parish is different. Good luck!
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  • Calypso1977Calypso1977 member
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    our priest didnt introduce us....he said it wasnt done.
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  • catarntinacatarntina member
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    My priest had us kiss right before everyone did the sign of peace.   He was really funny and said we didn't kiss long enough and made us kiss again so people could get pictures. LOL After we kissed, he announced that everyone should give the sign of peace and if they were married, to kiss their spouses.

    And right before the recessional started, he said "Please stand and congratulate Mr. and Mrs. {lastName}."  The music started, and H and I left the church.

    The priest processed in with groomsmen & DH.  My father walked me down the aisle, then DH and I walked up to the altar together.  So it was kind of a combo.

    So it really varies.
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  • lindzi375lindzi375
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_catholic-weddings_wedding-mass-rundown?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:615Discussion:838619e0-ddc9-483f-92ce-1e42e05dd115Post:eed1de73-1b02-4c62-bbab-6e5c4e0a4403">Re: Wedding Mass Rundown</a>:
    [QUOTE]My priest had us kiss right before everyone did the sign of peace.   He was really funny and said we didn't kiss long enough and made us kiss again so people could get pictures. LOL <strong>After we kissed, he announced that everyone should give the sign of peace and if they were married, to kiss their spouses. And right before the recessional started, he said "Please stand and congratulate Mr. and Mrs. {lastName}.</strong>"  The music started, and H and I left the church. The priest processed in with groomsmen & DH.  My father walked me down the aisle, then DH and I walked up to the altar together.  So it was kind of a combo. So it really varies.
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    Aww, that sounds so meaningful! I like that idea of married people kissing their spouses, how sweet! :)
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  • Calypso1977Calypso1977 member
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    edited December 2011

    this all makes me think of "church tongue" in the Wedding Singer...

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  • mica178mica178 member
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    Great reference.  I'm not so sure how I feel about "church tongue," I just can't imagine doing that in front of my grandma.
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  • bibliophile2010bibliophile2010 member
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    Fi and I regularly joke about an awkward peck on the cheek at the altar, because any sort of actual kiss in front of all of our family and friends skeeves us out a bit.
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