Now thinking about it, drama causing people are where I really want to throw etiquette out the window, if there's someone that I'm worried about going out of their way to cause drama and problems on what's supposed to be my future husband and my special day, they don't get an invite or they get un-invited. In the end this is the bride and groom's day, and they should be able to feel 100% comfortable with everyone who attends. I know we are supposed to also invite SOs to the wedding but what if one of your guests is with your ex and he really mistreated you in the past? I don't think I'd be comfortable with that. I just want to just vent on how I feel about being TOO polite and showing TOO much ettiquette. If you are invited, it means that you are an important part of our lives or important to our guests, so therefore as a sign of respect to the couple getting married, behave and show respect and class. There are certain people I really don't want to invite because they did not support me and my fiance being together in the begining, now all of a sudden their attitudes change now that I have a ring on my finger? Those people who were unsupportive of the relationship I don't want there, even if they did invite me to their weddings. I'm thinking of specific people btw. Am I wrong for feeling this way? I'm sorry but I believe that bad behavior or rudenss shouldn't be rewarded with an invite.You can't treat people certain ways and expect them to kiss your butt and invite you to your wedding. I think I would talk to specific people and explain how they hurt me, but if they don't care screw them