I'm in the Army and FI just finished his time in the active duty Navy. I feel like friends and family do not understand how hard it is for us to have the huge wedding (catholic) THEY want to have. My schedule and paycheck don't really make that possible...plus FI is disabled (somewhat) so we have a lot going on. I wanted something small and my mother went off and invited a ton of her estranged family members while I was away...I was uspet that she never asked what either of us thought. Now I'm about to be flooded with a million people and I'm sort of stuck with some of that bill....I wish we had just gone to the court like my platoon sergeant had suggested! UGH!