I don't want to have any sort of ceremony to include the children. No sand ceremony, no candles etc. I am going to have them stand with us (like attendants) when we say our vows, but that is it. Other them them we are not having a bridal party. They are also older too 20, 14, 12 and his daughter is 5. We bought a house and have been living together for over a year, so I feel we are very incorporated lol. What do you guys think?