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megharpiano · December 2010

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trix1223 · December 2010

When exactly did she sleep with your FI? Because that's one of the only reasons to "remove" a WP member.

trix1223 · December 2010

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[QUOTE]So... I picked my MOH months ago and she was the only one in the wedding party that was a definite. It's been a struggle all the way with her ever since and now, it's to the point that I'm going to remove her from my wedding. She's the only thing stressing me out about my wedding, and there are a million reasons why. But, what's the best way to remove her from it? This is also not the first wedding she has been removed from, but the other one was for different reasons. She's the only thing that could create a drama filled wedding day.
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AllAboutTheBenjamin · December 2010

If she's such a drama whore, I'm confused why you asked her to be your MOH in the first place.

If you're fine with never being her friend again, kick her out of your wedding party.

Manwaithiel · December 2010

Sounds like you're creating enough drama yourself. I doubt your MOH needs to help you.

The fact that other people were rude enough to kick out a wedding party member does not give you license to do so.

What do you mean by definite? Did you have others "on deck" or something?

Your wedding isn't a pageant or a contest or a baseball game. It's a freaking wedding. Please grab some perspective and worry about something more important. Like the rest of your life you will be sharing with your FI.

megharpiano · December 2010

I'm asking for ways to go about it. Not to rehash every detail, I've already done that with people in my life. I just want to know a way to break the news. There was a reason at one point, however she's done a lot of changing and isn't the person she once was. I'm not debating the pros and cons of it. Just ways to take care of it.

Manwaithiel · December 2010

The friendship will be over my friend. No matter how tactfully (read tactlessly) you choose to do this.

Manwaithiel · December 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Help! : Hire a hit man? No? If you've already decided to end this friendship, then why do you care how you do it? Sounds like you could call her up and say a la Donald Trump: You're Fired! And then hang up. Done. ETA: My eyes are rolling. Didn't we already discuss DD's today?!
Posted by jcbsjr[/QUOTE]

jc, I've been prowling around for the last hour and my eyes have nearly rolled out. Honeymoon registries, ousted MOHs, and DDs, OH MY!

saisongbird · December 2010

Manwa - welcome to the influx of beebees that we get after the Christmas engagements!

Manwaithiel · December 2010

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[QUOTE]Manwa - welcome to the influx of beebees that we get after the Christmas engagements!
Posted by saisongbird[/QUOTE]

I thought it was just a incredibly terrifying myth...

What ever shall we do?????

trix1223 · December 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: subject removed : I thought it was just a incredibly terrifying myth... What ever shall we do?????
Posted by Manwaithiel[/QUOTE]

Be patient, manwa, be patient. It's practice for the next influx on February 15. =)

Manwaithiel · December 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: subject removed : Be patient, manwa, be patient. It's practice for the next influx on February 15. =)
Posted by trix1223[/QUOTE]

Oh. My. Gosh.

I didn't even think about the Big 14. I'm going to need to take a Tylenol or something for all the eye rolling I will be doing.

My FI was boring. He proposed on August 2nd. That was probably for the best =)

aerinpegadrak · December 2010

There's no good way to do something so terrible. Once you figure out a polite way to kick a dude in the balls, you'll probably also know a polite way to kick a person out of your wedding.

bdulli13 · December 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: subject removed : Oh. My. Gosh. I didn't even think about the Big 14. I'm going to need to take a Tylenol or something for all the eye rolling I will be doing. My FI was boring. He proposed on August 2nd. That was probably for the best =)
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I got a miscellaneous date in June (the 16th). Here's to being boring!

bablingbrooke · December 2010

January 14th. DH has no sense of romance

Manwaithiel · December 2010

I think we should revolt against our DHs. They obviously did it wrong.

We should have engagement renewals =P

MyNameIsNot · December 2010

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[QUOTE]I'm asking for ways to go about it. Not to rehash every detail, I've already done that with people in my life. I just want to know a way to break the news. There was a reason at one point, however she's done a lot of changing and isn't the person she once was. I'm not debating the pros and cons of it. Just ways to take care of it.
Posted by megharpiano[/QUOTE]

<div>Just explain that you've decided you hate her, and want to hurt her in the worst way possible.</div><div>
</div><div>Really, there is no good way to do something so nasty and immature. </div>

trix1223 · December 2010

**off to check with DH**

I know we got engaged in August, but I'm not sure of the date. Going to see if he remembers.

Our first date was Dec. 23. We were married in July. Hmmmmmm.

tldh · December 2010

December 12. He did manage to get me to the wine bar where we met to actually propose. It's a good thing I forgot which airline he was flying and was standing at the wrong gate because he was so worked up about surprising me with the proposal and worrying about having the ring, he had decided to propose at the airport. Yep. Right there at terminal A at Cleveland Hopkins.

mkrupar · December 2010

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[QUOTE]December 12. He did manage to get me to the wine bar where we met to actually propose. It's a good thing I forgot which airline he was flying and was standing at the wrong gate because he was so worked up about surprising me with the proposal and worrying about having the ring, he had decided to propose at the airport. Yep. Right there at terminal A at Cleveland Hopkins.
Posted by tldh[/QUOTE]

This makes me smile. I'm from Cleveland. I know all about Hopkins.

aerinpegadrak · December 2010

May 10. I remember because it was the day after our five month dating anniversary, and our first date was easy to remember because it was also my seniority date with Disney, December 9. I didn't join the Knot until someone told me about it a couple of months later, though.

megk8oz · December 2010

I can't even remember why exactly I joined ... we didn't have a date yet, and I was kind of already in the mindset of "I'm not planning a damn thing until we have a date set" at that point ... I know I didn't start posting until we had a date, and that was like 9 months after my join date.

vicki0508 · December 2010

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[QUOTE]I think we should revolt against our DHs. They obviously did it wrong. <strong>We should have engagement renewals =P</strong>
Posted by Manwaithiel[/QUOTE]
Great idea! I think my FI could've worded it better...so I'll probably re-write the speech for him. We'll get all dressed up and I'll pick a much more romantic location, and make sure a photographer is there to take "candid" pictures. Yessssss

jagore08 · December 2010

January 16 (our 10 year dating anniversary) and I have no idea why I joined the knot years before. My best guess is because my friend was getting married but I didn't find the forums until I was planning my own wedding.

aerinpegadrak · December 2010

I joined because you had to have a account to save photos, but I very clearly remember my first post. It was on P&E, asking if I should take my stepdad up on his offer to double his financial contribution if we eloped. It gave me a lot to think about.

megk8oz · December 2010

I remember my first real question (And not squeeing over colors and stuff on my club board) was asking if I should ask BSC friend to be a BM, because she was really trying to press me into asking her.

saisongbird · December 2010

DH proposed on April 17th. He was going to do it on my birthday, May 5th, but when he asked my mom for permission she told him that I'd probably kill him if he did it that day. So he did it the weekend before I left on a 4 day school trip instead, so that the teenage girls gawked at it all weekend instead.

jagore08 · December 2010

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[QUOTE]DH proposed on April 17th. He was going to do it on my birthday, May 5th, but when he asked my mom for permission she told him that I'd probably kill him if he did it that day. <strong>So he did it the weekend before I left on a 4 day school trip instead, so that the teenage girls gawked at it all weekend instead.</strong>
Posted by saisongbird[/QUOTE]
Nice.

aerinpegadrak · December 2010

Actually, I kind of set the date for our engagement. I knew he'd been wanting to go up to Yosemite, so when he got his training schedule for his current job, I saw a shared gap in his schedule and mine, and suggested that we take the trip then. I didn't know he was planning on proposing up there.

jenmitens · December 2010

June 6. and I was miserably sick, and I was walking the dog.

OP, speaking as a former BFF, and a kicked out MOH. It WILL forever change your relationship with her. It took me and my ex BFF YEARS to even get back on speaking terms. And I use "speaking terms" very loosely. It was basically that I didn't want to punch her in the face. There is no easy way to do that. There cant be, because it's not supposed to happen. No one can stop you, but you really have to be ready for the fallout. There is no going back. And just because she's been kicked out before does not give you the right do to it again.

lalap69 · December 2010

Dec 30, so exactly a year ago today.

It was romantic and perfect and I didn't see it coming. Yeah, a lot of people get engaged around this time of year so we aren't exactly unique in this regard, but I'm okay with that.

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