I got engaged earlier this year. Were getting married August 2013, and have most things planned n paid for. Something came up and I needed insurance, so we did a quicky wedding in Nov with only our parents there as were still planning to have the big family wedding in August. My question is my bridesmaids still want to throw me a shower and I know i kinda don't get a say in it, but most people already know were married, i'm afriad people will think were just looking for gifts. Is it ok to still have the shower, we never had any type of engagement party and we really could use the gifts as were buying a house too. How do I handle this?