Are/were you a bridesmaid for a girl you don't want in your wedding?

jaimdales · June 2010

Hi ladies,

I work with Knot Annie, and she suggested I come here to take this poll for the magazine. Thanks in advance. Here goes!

rbtrumpet · June 2010

I've been a bridesmaid 5 times.

One of them in a BM in my wedding, one is our reader, but the other 3 are just invited as guests.

loop0406 · June 2010

I've been a bridesmaid 3 times and didn't choose any of them to be in my WP

waltzingmatilda13 · June 2010

I've only been in 2 weddings: 1 was my sister's and I was MOH; she was MOH in mine 2 months ago.

The other one I was a BM, but we grew apart and hadn't talked in 4 years, so she wasn't even invited to the wedding.

ecsmiles · June 2010

I've been a bridesmaid in 3 weddings - only one of those brides is in my brial party (She's my MOH)

AdeleDazeem · June 2010

I've been a Maid of Honor twice.

Once for my sister and she will be mine.

Once for my good college friend, who won't be in my wedding. I love her to death and we're still quite close, but I don't want a wedding party.

stina93446 · June 2010

I've only been in 1 wedding. I was her MOH. I asked her to be a bm.

SarahPLiz · June 2010

I was a BM once and a MOH once. I will be a BM again 5months after my wedding. None of these girls are in my BP, but not because I don't like them. I am really good friends with all 3 of them, they are all guests, and one of them's child is my ring bearer, but my BP consists of only my 2 sisters.

BTW, I think the title of your post and the actual question in the poll are 2 different things. Way to go with the negative connotation of non-reciprocation.

megk8oz · June 2010

I was a BM once for a friend. She was a nightmare as a bride, and her wedding kind of put the kabosh on our friendship. She was invited to my wedding, but it never once occured to me that I would want her as a BM.

baystateapple · June 2010

Ditto Meg.

I was MOH in a wedding that effectively ended our friendship. She is not going to be a BM. She will get an invite, however.

banana468 · June 2010

I was a BM for my cousin and I didn't ask her to be in my wedding. I love her and think she's awesome but we went in a different direction for the WP. I also didn't feel so bad since she was married 13 years before me.

MissDuke2012 · June 2010

I've been a MOH once and BM 4 times. And will be 2 more times before my wedding. As of now we haven't chose our WP but, thinking about it theres only one of them I would even consider.

jaimed99 · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_arewere-bridesmaid-girl-dont-want-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:3f09a83c-4eef-4f09-a6f4-5f397f1bbc27Post:f5145318-fae6-4b56-a06f-eec6c9fbded4">Re: Are/were you a bridesmaid for a girl you don't want in your wedding?</a>:
[QUOTE]I was a BM for my cousin and I didn't ask her to be in my wedding. I love her and think she's awesome but we went in a different direction for the WP. I also didn't feel so bad since she was married 13 years before me.
Posted by banana468[/QUOTE]

<div>Ditto this, basically...I was a BM in my cousin's wedding, but I won't be asking her to be in my WP...she's cool with it though...with our family, asking one cousin means I would have to ask them ALL or wind up with a buttload of drama that I don't need...and I have 5 female cousins...</div>

MyNameIsNot · July 2010

I had been a BM 3 times, and I didn't ask any of them to be BMs. Two of my 4 BMs are now planning their weddings, and both have asked me.

quotequeen · July 2010

I've never been in a wedding, but I won't be in the weddings for any of my BP because they all had/are having really small weddings without bridal parties.

lisarose7 · July 2010

I voted yes, even though I was technically "best man" and not a bridesmaid. My friend asked me to be his "best man" after I'd already chosen my attendants...although to be honest I wouldn't have asked him to be an attendant anyway. Instead, he's doing a reading and his husband will be doing my hair.

Beachy730 · July 2010

I've been a BM in 4 weddings, and 2 of those brides are my BMs and a 3rd is my MOH. The 4th girl was my college roommate who I haven't talked to in probably 4 years since we live a few hours apart. She actually isn't even invited to my wedding since we haven't talked and we truly know nothing about eachothers' lives anymore.

HisCB · July 2010

i was a bridesmaid in my Moms wedding. she wont be in my wp.

IF my MOH got married in the near future i would most likely be her MOH or a BM if not.
I will be a groomsmaid in my bridesman's wedding next year
I was NOT in my 2nd bridesmaids wedding

the other 2 bridesmaids arent old enough to even think about marriage yet .

my Fiance has been in 8 weddings and only 2 of those friends will be in his wedding. his 3rd gm has said he'd never get married.

Jelenny · July 2010

Yes I am currently a bridesmaid in my friends wedding.....she will not be in my wedding but an invited guest

saxy414 · July 2010

I'll be a BM in a wedding 3 weeks before mine, and I'm not going to have her as a BM in my wedding. On the other hand, I have a friend who will be a BM for me, but I was not in her wedding.

Jartiaga07 · July 2010

I've been a MOH in one wedding and now we aren't friends, he husband said some means things about fiance and I and she spread.,..so friendship ended and she isn't even invioted to the wedding.

bonnyandtim · July 2010

I was a BM in 2008 for my childhood best-friend.

When I could pick 5 girls, I picked her. Then, we limited to 3, & she had to be 1 of the 2 cut.

& I'm SO GLAD she is not a BM. She is a guest, but she has been sooooooo AW & unavailable & needy & _______ ugh!

Kate504 · July 2010

I have been a bridesmaid 4 times.

twice for my cousins, once for my sister and once for a friend from college. My friend moved away and we lost touch, especially after she had children. I have no bad feelings against her, we are just at different times in our lives and live hours away from each other.....she didn't even know we were friends on facebook for a while!

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