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Suggestion for Role in Wedding?

shellybo245shellybo245 member
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I have 2 older brothers. Both of their wives are going to be in my wedding party but only one of my brothers is going to be a groomsmen. I let my fiancé choose who he wanted for his groomsmen and since he hangs out with my one brother a lot and doesn't talk too often with the other, he only picked one of them to be in it. So now we're at a loss as to what we should have my other brother do. He's the type of person who is going to feel hurt and jealous if his wife and brother get to be part of the wedding party and he doesn't get to do anything. He also chose me to be his witness when he got married, so it's important to me that he plays a role in my wedding. Any ideas as to something special he could do?

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    twilight.rosetwilight.rose member
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    Other than having him do a reading, wedding "jobs" tend to just be consolation prizes.

    Being a guest is an honor in and of itself.
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    mbcdefgmbcdefg member
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    Have him as your own attendant in the bridal party.  

    Or a reader, or a guest, if him being in the bridal party is absolutely out of the question.  

    But, really, if 3 of 4 siblings/in-laws are included and he's the odd man out, I could absolutely understand why he'd be upset. To me that's a pretty big slap in the face, especially since it seems like you and he get along well. He shouldn't be excluded just because your FI isn't friends with him. He can stand on your side as a bridesman/attendant, or you could ask your FI if he'll please just include him as a groomsman.
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    aerinpegadrakaerinpegadrak member
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    My brother stood on my side.
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    trix1223trix1223 member
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    Have him as one of your attendants. 

    And absolutely, I have to say that if you have 3 or 4 siblings/siblings-in-law in the WP, it's a pretty crummy thing to leave one out.  That's quite a public slight.
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    acmj11acmj11
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    My brother is standing up for me on my side.  If you want him in your wedding party, have him on your side.  I agree with pps that if his wife, and your other brother and his wife are going to be in it, you shouldn't leave him out.
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    AbbeyS2011AbbeyS2011 member
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    It would really be inappropriate to leave him out of the WP as PPs have said.  I would either have him on your side as a Bridal attendant or ask FI to make him a GM and have the sides uneven - that is no biggie.  What is a biggie is his feelings being seriously hurt, plus your guests will ask why he was not included in the WP.

    My WP is all of FI's brothers and his sister, two of his cousin's daughters, his daughter and my two sons.  The only reason I did not ask any of my family to be WP is they are on the other side of the US and I am not sure if any of them will be able to come to the ceremony, and I did not want to obligate anyone to make that trip if they cannot financially afford it.
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    shellybo245shellybo245 member
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    Thanks everyone for the advice! When I discussed it with my FI he agreed that we should do whatever to include him in our WP. I don't really want the sides to be uneven, so I think I have a pretty good friend that I could ask to be another bridesmaid. Thanks again!
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