Shortish version- I originally had 4 bridesmaids. 3 friends, and my younger sister. FI's sister told him she wanted to be included in the wedding in some way. I said she could stand on his side. This didn't seem to go over well. I didn't ask her to be on my side of the weddnig because I don't know her well. Well, one of my BMs was unable to commit until much closer to the wedding and when I mentioned FI's sister wanting to be in she let me know that while she would enjoy being in the wedding and wants to be there, she feels bad that she can't commit until later and that the wedding is about the joining of our families and that if FI's sister wants to be in the wedding it would be ok for her to take her place. (She is a great and understanding friend!)
So FI lets his sister know that we would like her to be a BM. Her response, after mentioning several times that she wanted to be in it? "Ok cool. I'll let you know.". You'll let us know!? Seriously? At this point, I'm very irritated. I'm trying to include her and get our relationship started off on the right foot by making sure that she's included in the wedding. Now, she has waited so long to "let us know" that the dress that the other bridesmaids got is out of stock. Now exactly what am I suppsoed to do when in a few weeks she finally makes up her mind and wants to be in it, with no dress in sight? I'm getting really frustrated trying to make sure that the wedding isn't inconvenient for anyone and that everyone is included as much as they want to be. Ugh!