This is my first time posting but I'm a frequent reader! I've still got a year to plan since I'm getting married in May of 2013. My FILs mentioned in passing that they might want to throw us an engagement party this summer. Since I am a full-time graduate student it would either be this summer or not at all because they live several states away. Communication between my FI and his family is kind of sporadic. Should he or I call them or email them to find out if they are going to give a party? I don't want them to feel like the have to, but we would need to know so we could plan to be off work and have our dogs boarded. I feel like it's a touchy subject for me to bring up with them since they don't exactly seem to be thrilled that we are getting married...Advice Appreciated