Hi Knotties, a bridal shower etiquette question for you:
My fiance's sister-in-law kindly offered to throw a bridal shower for me to welcome me into their very big Canadian family. She wants to invite just female relatives as a way for them to get to know me.
I am having a small wedding (50-60 people), and many distant relatives and out-of-town guests will not be invited, which unfortunately excludes many of the same people she would like me to meet. My fiance's family is very large, and my fi's sister-in-law would prefer to invite people who would not necessarily be invited to the wedding. So my question is, since this is not your standard bridal shower per se, how can we distinguish this from a traditional "bridal shower"? Would calling it a "bridal luncheon" or "bridal social" be a polite way to let guests know that this event is for getting to know and welcoming the bride (me) and not necessarily imply that they would be invited to our wedding? Is there a naming convention for a party like this?
I think people might interpret any such party as a "bridal shower', no matter what we call it. So should I request that she work from our guest list? I'm really touched that she even offered, and I don't want to miss an opportunity to be welcomed into his family. Help and thanks!
Robyn