My Sister is 31, I'm 23. We never really got along growing up, which is normal for a big age difference I guess. SO anyways, we've never really been those super close sisters that talk all the time, share clothes, etc. So it took me a little by surprise when she wanted to be my MOH. Well these past few weeks it seems like every other time we talk, it turns into a fight.
Two weeks ago, one of my bridesmaids dropped out bc she said she didn't have money to order the dress. My sister sided with her and said I should've given them 2+ weeks notice on the deadline for ordering (I gave everyone 3 weeks... as soon as I knew we had to order by mid-Dec to get it in on time for alterations). Well when I stated that it just started a huge fight about how I didn't and how she's not really helping me like she said she would....
Then we decided to buy a few Christmas gifts together so we could give some people something a little nicer. I told her if I got my uncle this one gift it'd be $40, if I got him the other it'd be $30. So I wound up getting the $40 one bc they were out of the other. When she asked me what the total for her half of the gifts were I told her $45. She said that I said it was supposed to be $35 and basically acted like I was trying to rip her off or something so I was like whatever just give me $35 if it's that big a deal, and she's like you need to stop getting so mad over everything and being so explosive....
Now today she asked me what time we're going to meet on Friday and I was on the phone so I just texted back "after work" and was going to text her the details when I hung up (in hindsight I shoud've just waited to text her back and avoided all this mess). She almost immediately texts me back that i don't communicate properly or make it concrete and that if i want her to go alone I should just say that. FIRST OF ALL... when we first made plans to order the dresses she said meet us there at 6 (it closes at 7) because she'd be coming from work. We were already going to be up there anyways by the time she got there. So of course this time I call her out on how she's always accusing me of getting mad over nothing I point out that she's always stirring the pot. She acts like she's completely innocent and always "super nice" and I always reply by being a smart ass, rude, or angry. And then when she's done chewing me out over 7 long texts, she tells ME to let it go.
Obviously we're not seeing eye to eye.... I know if I ask her to step down as MOH she'll just get mad again and accuse me of being dramatic, if I try to talk to her she'll just say I need to chill out (because apparently I get mad for no reason whatsoever?), so should I just ignore this as sisters fighting and get over it? I'd rather her drop out before ordering a dress and wasting her money than later.